Originally posted by stockenGo stocken! One of my genetics professors said that being, "gay" is a combination of genetics, chemistry, and socialization (nurture). Considering it tends to be an expression of stress upon a population I always felt it was unfair to blame people who were gay for being so. That being said, on a personal level, I have to fight my own distaste whenever I see two guys kiss. A meeting of the intellect and the gut.
The only psychological problems facing homosexuals (that aren't also
facing heterosexuals) is not being accepted by society at large. Though
that has turned for the better in the past 30 or so years.
Of course they behave like "normal" people. What kind of question is
that? What's normal?
A lot of gay people have a hard time coming out of ...[text shortened]... terested in joining the second
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I would not kill them, but neither do I enjoy seeing it. A paradox.
Originally posted by DoctorDaraIf you had a child who was gay, 1) would you want to know and 2) would it change your love for them? When these kinds of issues come into our home, it tends to make us more receptive to considering how complex issues are.
Go stocken! One of my genetics professors said that being, "gay" is a combination of genetics, chemistry, and socialization (nurture). Considering it tends to be an expression of stress upon a population I always felt it was unfair to blame people who were gay for being so. That being said, on a personal level, I have to fight my own distaste whenever I s ...[text shortened]... intellect and the gut.
I would not kill them, but neither do I enjoy seeing it. A paradox.
Originally posted by DoctorDaraI wouldn't call that a paradox. Not enjoying seeing something is a bad reason for killing someone. I have to fight my own distaste whenever I see anyone kiss, but I know that's only my own personal reaction and doesn't have to do anything with whether it is right or wrong.
I would not kill them, but neither do I enjoy seeing it. A paradox.
Originally posted by kirksey957Agreed, it's a lot easier to be condescending until you meet someone who is. Then you see a lot more gray in the situation. Especially if they are important to you. ;-)
If you had a child who was gay, 1) would you want to know and 2) would it change your love for them? When these kinds of issues come into our home, it tends to make us more receptive to considering how complex issues are.
Originally posted by NordlysThanks Nordlys, I agree distaste is a bad reason to kill anyone.
I wouldn't call that a paradox. Not enjoying seeing something is a bad reason for killing someone. I have to fight my own distaste whenever I see anyone kiss, but I know that's only my own personal reaction and doesn't have to do anything with whether it is right or wrong.
Originally posted by DoctorDaraThe opposite can happen, too - a lot of people say they don't have a problem with homosexuality, but if it happens in their own family, they are a lot less accepting.
Agreed, it's a lot easier to be condescending until you meet someone who is. Then you see a lot more gray in the situation. Especially if they are important to you. ;-)
Originally posted by NordlysI don't mean to get too personal, but aren't we talking about an issue where when we are vehemently opposed to it, in all honesty, aren't we also attracted to it?
I wouldn't call that a paradox. Not enjoying seeing something is a bad reason for killing someone. I have to fight my own distaste whenever I see anyone kiss, but I know that's only my own personal reaction and doesn't have to do anything with whether it is right or wrong.
Originally posted by kirksey957Not everyone is attracted to the same sex. It's possible to while finding your gender attractive, not be physically aroused by it. There's a difference. Even among animals with a high prevalence of "gayness" (the rates reach 30% in dairy cattle by some estimates) there are still people and creatures who simply are not wired that way.
I don't mean to get too personal, but aren't we talking about an issue where when we are vehemently opposed to it, in all honesty, aren't we also attracted to it?
Originally posted by DoctorDaraI tend to see it as a continueum as opposed to either one or the other.
Not everyone is attracted to the same sex. It's possible to while finding your gender attractive, not be physically aroused by it. There's a difference. Even among animals with a high prevalence of "gayness" (the rates reach 30% in dairy cattle by some estimates) there are still people and creatures who simply are not wired that way.
Originally posted by kirksey957I don't believe that to be the case. Are you attracted to food you find disgusting? Are you attracted to music you instinctively dislike? Are you attracted to hitting people if you feel uncomfortable when you see someone hitting someone else? The last example is very close to my reaction to seeing other people engage in sexual behaviour. It feels uncomfortable because it's something I would find uncomfortable if it were done to myself. I guess that's the same reason why many heterosexual people who don't have anything against homosexual people feel uncomfortable when they see them kissing.
I don't mean to get too personal, but aren't we talking about an issue where when we are vehemently opposed to it, in all honesty, aren't we also attracted to it?
Originally posted by NordlysI consider myself to be a non-violent person, however I know myself well enough to know that on some level violence feels "good."
I don't believe that to be the case. Are you attracted to food you find disgusting? Are you attracted to music you instinctively dislike? Are you attracted to hitting people if you feel uncomfortable when you see someone hitting someone else? The last example is very close to my reaction to seeing other people engage in sexual behaviour. It feels uncomfortab ...[text shortened]... don't have anything against homosexual people feel uncomfortable when they see them kissing.