08 Dec 05
Originally posted by mokkoTo answer your more seriously, I think that spanking does have a place when used to discipline children, but to be honest, unless I whack my kids really hard it doesn't have much affect. I find the threat of no playstation/toys works much better than the threat of spanking.
So it's ok to spank? 🙄
08 Dec 05
Originally posted by mokkoI don't know.
So it's ok to spank? 🙄
There are times when passive punishment doesn't work.
I'd much rather discipline my kid through spanking than ham him/er grow up with less potential.
I think it's a matter of how the rest of the relationship with your child works. Personally, I don't think any parent likes punishing their own kid, or any kid.
Perhaps there comes a time when a parent doesn't know what else to do. I think if it has come this far then too many things have gone wrong up to that point.
So... the short answer is yes, the long answer is no.
09 Dec 05
Originally posted by Jay PeateaI s'pose at birthday parties your friend throws for children, when the music stops everyone gets a chair, and everyone gets a prize.
I've got two kids 8 & 6, one of each, everytime I pour them a glass of coke or cut them a piece of cake. Regardless of how accurate I pour or cut, they're always squabbling over who got the bigger measure. I was telling this to my friend, and he gave me an interesting solution to the problem. Get one of them to do the pouring or cutting on the understan ...[text shortened]... oying they are when they're squabbling, so if you've got any good ideas please post them up 🙂
My kids all pretty much dook it out to get there fair share...that is if the dogs don't snatch it outa there little hands first.
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It builds character that will help them in life, having to fight for what they want (within reason of course). It is very seldom as you get to be an adult that anyone will cut an even share for everyone. I think the lesson is an unrealistic one.
RTh
09 Dec 05
Originally posted by sasquatch672Kick @ss! Put me down for tew. I have Gus and Mable (my dogs). Mable has a little knot in her lower back that could use a little gittin at, and Gus just don't even care but loves the attention. He will be due to have his glands tended to, so I was wondering if that were included in the price. He would consider that a happy endin.
Hel-LO, Mok-KO!!
You coming to Philly for our lil' shindig? Free hot-oil massages, provided by yours truly!
RTh
09 Dec 05
Originally posted by RingtailhunterPretty much at all the parties that my kids have gone too, everybody has got a prize.
I s'pose at birthday parties your friend throws for children, when the music stops everyone gets a chair, and everyone gets a prize.
My kids all pretty much dook it out to get there fair share...that is if the dogs don't snatch it outa there little hands first.
😉
It builds character that will help them in life, having to fight for what the ...[text shortened]... anyone will cut an even share for everyone. I think the lesson is an unrealistic one.
RTh
Regarding musical chairs, a different way to play it is to keep all the children in the game but still take the chairs away. At the end the kids could have a lot fun trying to get everyone sitting on one chair.
Of course what you're saying is also correct about having to fight for what you want in life. However taken to the extreme that attitude is also unrealistic. The key here is within reason, and that would be the same for my friends suggestion too.
09 Dec 05
Originally posted by Jay PeateaI guess that I dont get alot of this "new" stuff. I dont understand what you mean by "taken to the extreme", Can you elaborate?
Pretty much at all the parties that my kids have gone too, everybody has got a prize.
Regarding musical chairs, a different way to play it is to keep all the children in the game but still take the chairs away. At the end the kids could have a lot fun trying to get everyone sitting on one chair.
Of course what you're saying is also correct about ha ...[text shortened]... listic. The key here is within reason, and that would be the same for my friends suggestion too.
09 Dec 05
Originally posted by Jay PeateaI personally like Invigorate's solution.
I've got two kids 8 & 6, one of each, everytime I pour them a glass of coke or cut them a piece of cake. Regardless of how accurate I pour or cut, they're always squabbling over who got the bigger measure. I was telling this to my friend, and he gave me an interesting solution to the problem. Get one of them to do the pouring or cutting on the understan ...[text shortened]... oying they are when they're squabbling, so if you've got any good ideas please post them up 🙂
I think Mokko's is bordering on something, I can't quite place my finger on it, but I'll give old Mengele's teachings a look over to see if I can find it.
Teaching children that life is fair/unfair is basically okay, but it's far healthier to teach them to be as nice as possible to others (what goes around comes around). The glass of coke (or milk...) and the piece of cake aren't really important. It's the interaction between people that really counts.
If you can teach your children this at an early age, they'll have a higher chance of turning into decent human beings.
09 Dec 05
Originally posted by shavixmirTrue, but decent human beings are frequently trampled over by not-so-decent human beings.
I personally like Invigorate's solution.
I think Mokko's is bordering on something, I can't quite place my finger on it, but I'll give old Mengele's teachings a look over to see if I can find it.
Teaching children that life is fair/unfair is basically okay, but it's far healthier to teach them to be as nice as possible to others (what goes arou ...[text shortened]... hildren this at an early age, they'll have a higher chance of turning into decent human beings.
*cough* *cough*
I'm such a troll... 🙂