02 Jul 21
@torunn saidTaking responsibility for your actions, looking after your family as best you can...other than that, a lot more Gamete production than I would've guessed.
What is it like being a man? "Be a man", we hear as to encourage men to be a certain way. "A man's got to do what a man's got to do." As a woman, I can't help wondering: what is it like being a man? What do men feel is expected of them other than just being human?
02 Jul 21
@eladar saidAfter 20 years of marriage I would think you've learned to talk things over amicably.
If you say so.
What over 20 years of marriage has taught me...
Better to just say, 'of course you are right' than to fight it.
Letting things build up without saying anything can cause problems.
-VR
02 Jul 21
@very-rusty saidGood luck with that. The ability to discuss something with another person requires coming from a family with a functional structure. Much of the way we deal with things are based on what we grew up under.
After 20 years of marriage I would think you've learned to talk things over amicably.
Letting things build up without saying anything can cause problems.
-VR
So you learn to live with what you married.
02 Jul 21
@eladar saidI am sorry, but I couldn't live that way.
Good luck with that. The ability to discuss something with another person requires coming from a family with a functional structure. Much of the way we deal with things are based on what we grew up under.
So you learn to live with what you married.
-VR
02 Jul 21
@very-rusty saidWithout knowing better about marriage I would say when things get complicated: ride out the storm.
I am sorry, but I couldn't live that way.
-VR
02 Jul 21
@very-rusty saidThen you would be forced to get a divorce.
I am sorry, but I couldn't live that way.
-VR
The only way to remain married is to not get a divorce.
@torunn saidAnd find a way to eventually get the other person to learn.
Without knowing better about marriage I would say when things get complicated: ride out the storm.
It took going into a lot of credit card debt with my wife making the payments for her to figure out not spending as much money. Of course I should have known it was an issue I had to both pay off her college loans and credit card debt when we go married.
But money is just money. It used to create a lot of issues, now I just do not care about fixing it. It looks like now she is.
We have a combined bank account so she was just making the monthly payments but for the most part with money that I bring in.
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@suzianne saidBeing a man means knowing you can say that about us and get applauded for it, but if we dare even hint at something similar about you, we are horrible sexists who deserve nothing but cancellation and if possible being put on a register.
There are plenty exactly like you in the red state where I live, trust me.
Seen one, seen 'em all.
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02 Jul 21
@eladar saidEven RepublAmUhrica has evolved so far that divorce is legal there.
Good luck with that. The ability to discuss something with another person requires coming from a family with a functional structure. Much of the way we deal with things are based on what we grew up under.
So you learn to live with what you married.