15 Nov 09
Originally posted by uscf1700Maybe you'd better try different friends.
Almost 2 years ago I was severly injured while playing sports.
I made a vow to recover and train hard so I could return and dominate.
While training I made some friends on the internet from my trash talking and my "in your face" attitude. This translates into "Internet tough guy"
So tonight was my first competition since my injury 2 years ago, and it w ...[text shortened]... mind is racing with the "coulda, shoulda, woulda's". In hindsight I'm tough
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15 Nov 09
Originally posted by uscf1700What was your initial injury? A dislocation can ruin your wrestling, and it's no shame in worrying about it happening again. In fact, it's a fool that doesn't worry about it.
No it wasn't cage fighting, it was just wrestling.
I got my body in shape but I had no idea I wasn't mentally ready.
How to recover mentally? I don't know.
15 Nov 09
Originally posted by uscf1700just like getting back on the horse after a fall.
No it wasn't cage fighting, it was just wrestling.
I got my body in shape but I had no idea I wasn't mentally ready.
How to recover mentally? I don't know.
small steps, a little at a time.
push yourself until you start to feel the fear, then go just a little further.
each time, just a little further.
eventually, you'll see the breakthrough.
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15 Nov 09
Originally posted by Suziannehave you ever fallen off a horse?
just like getting back on the horse after a fall.
small steps, a little at a time.
push yourself until you start to feel the fear, then go just a little further.
each time, just a little further.
eventually, you'll see the breakthrough.
16 Nov 09
Originally posted by uscf1700When you approach the situation in which you were previously injured, inside a voice says 'I might get hurt again' and you counter with 'No, I won't, I'm internet tough guy" and you try to push the fear down. Then before you know it, you're wrestling with yourself (that's what the shaking is).
No it wasn't cage fighting, it was just wrestling.
I got my body in shape but I had no idea I wasn't mentally ready.
How to recover mentally? I don't know.
The 'I might get hurt' is in opposition to the 'No, I won't' when the truth is 'Yes, I might and it's OK if I do.' What? you say, I don't want to get hurt again! And that's true, but in order to compete, you have to successfully put yourself in a situation where you put yourself at risk but are OK in doing so. If not, you shake.
When the fear response starts to rise, we tend to push it back down, which is the wrong way to handle that flow of energy. Let it rise, acknowledge it, and either let it flow up, out of you, and away or if you can't do that, redirect it so that you use the energy for your benefit. Example, 'I might get hurt' turns into 'If I pin him quickly, I can't get hurt.' Try coming up with your own counters to "I might get hurt..." until you find one that resonates as an acceptable counter to that inner voice of fear. Then practice that until it becomes natural.
If you ask any hero whether they get afraid, they'll tell you they do but they do something useful with the fear. Hang in there, you'll succeed if you choose to persevere. It's like using your opponent's weight against him; make the energy flow to where it serves your purpose.