@great-big-stees saidI’ve rarely had to.
Anyone done it and not in someone’s body?
I’ve done a few times, in “real” life as well as elsewhere.
I think in our case they were penknives.
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@divegeester saidI am “older” (not always wiser) and have found myself in situations where it’s best to toss the instrument(s) aside for my own sanity.
I’ve rarely had to.
I think in our case they were penknives.
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@great-big-stees saidI am not the forgiving kind.The only way I would bury the hatchet would be in my enemies back.
I am “older” (not always wiser) and have found myself in situations where it’s best to toss the instrument(s) aside for my own sanity.
@great-big-stees saidWould you agree that there first needs to be a desire by both hatchet bearers to bury them?
I am “older” (not always wiser) and have found myself in situations where it’s best to toss the instrument(s) aside for my own sanity.
@badradger said.The only way I would bury the hatchet would be in my enemies back.Would you class people you don’t get on with here at RHP as being “enemies”?
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@divegeester saidAbsolutely. Hatchet burying can never really work unless it’s a mutual thing, otherwise there’s still will be animosity from one of the parties.
Would you agree that there first needs to be a desire by both hatchet bearers to bury them?
@great-big-stees saidI’ve just had a quick scan through my memory banks and I think there only one person in my life who I carry a bit of a grudge against. That was a work colleague from a while back who treated me badly. They caused me quite a bit of upset.
Absolutely. Hatchet burying can never really work unless it’s a mutual thing, otherwise there’s still will be animosity from one of the parties.
If they decided to approach me and apologise (they wouldn’t) I would be compelled to forgive them; actually I don’t think I could do otherwise, such is the power of sincere reconciliation. IMO.
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@great-big-stees saidAs far as I recall, I have never buried a hatchet. It hardly ever goes as far as that - I just "leave the party" and sometimes it is not even noticed. And that I believe is a sign we were mutually tired of each other.
Absolutely. Hatchet burying can never really work unless it’s a mutual thing, otherwise there’s still will be animosity from one of the parties.
21 Jul 21
@great-big-stees saidWell done Stees!
Anyone done it and not in someone’s body?
I’ve done a few times, in “real” life as well as elsewhere.
I buried some hatchetts in my time.
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Yes, I buried the hatchet with my brother and we moved forward. Very glad we did that. It was in our early 20s after a childhood of fighting.
A very important thing to do for health IMO.
But when the other party isn't of the same mindset, it's near impossible. I don't want to say impossible because I hope I can forgive. And I wish I could forgive; a person who is not sorry, has not recognised the damage they created and even continue to miss the mark of loving the people I love. It's a very hard thing to do. Kudos to anyone who manages that, truly. I've worked on it for a decade now.