05 Sep 21
@eladar saidNo, nothing anywhere near as complicated as that. When a woman commits to someone she expects her partner to take a fair share of the family and household tasks. If she feels she’s being treated like a doormat and feels physically exhausted then her interest in sex declines.
So you are saying that women do not have a sex drive and must be bought in some way to want to have sex.
05 Sep 21
@eladar saidMany women are attracted to men with power and influence. Often in the animal world, strong males win the females but they could also be caring and look after their offspring.
There are older guys with money who get younger girls. The key is to have the money. Many girls are attracted to money.
05 Sep 21
@torunn saidDifferent people define different things as strength though, but maybe that's also part of it. Maybe men are attracted to the women who define the same qualities as strengths that they do, so you get couples with compatible values that way??
Many women are attracted to men with power and influence. Often in the animal world, strong males win the females but they could also be caring and look after their offspring.
05 Sep 21
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@relentless-red saidSeems reasonable, a winning concept, so to speak. Painters have often married - or lived with - female painters, a good match, but the man is mostly more successful than the woman. Sometimes she knows she is just as good an artist, and their relationship could suffer, and she suffers too, when she is not recognized for the artist she is whereas her man is.
Different people define different things as strength though, but maybe that's also part of it. Maybe men are attracted to the women who define the same qualities as strengths that they do, so you get couples with compatible values that way??
05 Sep 21
@torunn saidThen of course you get Bonnie and Clyde united that way as well so maybe the end product isn't always a win. 😃
Seems reasonable, a winning concept, so to speak.
05 Sep 21
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@torunn saidOf course there is a distinction between similar values and similar skills and jobs.
Seems reasonable, a winning concept, so to speak. Painters have often married - or lived with - female painters, a good match, but the man is mostly more successful than the woman. Sometimes she knows she is just as good an artist, and their relationship could suffer, and she suffers too, when she is not recognized for the artist she is whereas her man is.
Years ago I knew a couple who did the same job. Both worked part time. Same hours, same amount of time with their child. Looked ideal. Shocked when I heard that they had split up.
05 Sep 21
@relentless-red saidWe know not what goes on behind closed doors!
Of course there is a distinction between similar values and similar skills and jobs.
Years ago I knew a couple who did the same job. Both worked part time. Same hours, same amount of time with their child. Looked ideal. Shocked when I heard that they had split up.
-VR
05 Sep 21
@relentless-red saidHow about couples who actually look like each other?!
Of course there is a distinction between similar values and similar skills and jobs.
Years ago I knew a couple who did the same job. Both worked part time. Same hours, same amount of time with their child. Looked ideal. Shocked when I heard that they had split up.
05 Sep 21
@drewnogal saidWell that is all and fine, but women do not get bored with the same old guy based on if he did the dishes or not.
No, nothing anywhere near as complicated as that. When a woman commits to someone she expects her partner to take a fair share of the family and household tasks. If she feels she’s being treated like a doormat and feels physically exhausted then her interest in sex declines.
05 Sep 21
@torunn saidIf a rich guy is looking to pick up a girl, it is usually just for a short romantic interaction. If the girl is honest, she is doing the same.
Many women are attracted to men with power and influence. Often in the animal world, strong males win the females but they could also be caring and look after their offspring.
06 Sep 21
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@eladar saidEver heard of Esther Perel, the Belgian psychotherapist who specialises in working with couples? She’s easy to watch and has a lot of insight into what you are getting at in this thread.
Well that is all and fine, but women do not get bored with the same old guy based on if he did the dishes or not.
The secret to desire in a long-term relationship - Esther Perel
06 Sep 21
@drewnogal saidCouples who wear the same clothes as each other??
How about couples who actually look like each other?!
Who gets to chose which room they go into? 😁
06 Sep 21
@drewnogal saidThank you, interesting and true.
Ever heard of Esther Perel, the Belgian psychotherapist who specialises in working with couples? She’s easy to watch and has a lot of insight into what you are getting at in this thread.
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The secret to desire in a long-term relationship - Esther Perel