25 Jan 10
Originally posted by yo its meMost of the better parents i've dealt with make time for themselves after their kids have gone to bed or they get a babysitter to watch them when the parents go out.
. I find there needs to be time I set aside for me outside of being mum.
Part-time parenting usually ends up with kids who don't listen to their parents.
"This too shall pass" rings in a kid's head if you aren't there all the time.
25 Jan 10
The belt?! 😞
Hitting your kid may allow you to teach him what are the limits, sure. But unless he understands why the limit is there he'll only stop himself from doing it out of fear of being caught.
Encourage your kid to think about it. Sit him down and talk to him. There's nothing more boring for a kid than doing nothing so it can be even more effective in the short-run than a wrist slap or a tap in the bum.
25 Jan 10
Originally posted by CrowleyNo she is learning that smacking someone is the thing to do when she has a problem with someone. You are an abusive Father!
Bull excrement. A big steaming pile of it.
She is learning that actions have consequences, and if she does something stupid like run into the street, then her bum is going to be spanked.
You are lucky you don't live in Canada, I would report you for abusing your child.
25 Jan 10
Originally posted by MimorLike I said you were abused by your father, so you abuse you kids.
I agree with this. My father used the belt but by the time it got to that, he'd lost his temper and it just left my brothers and me scared and resentful.
And I totally agree with what you're saying about spankings being a very controlled consequence. When my kids were little, that was pretty much how I approached it but there were a couple of times when ...[text shortened]... e case if I wasn't willing to recognize my limitations and reassess my approach to my kids.
Hitting a kid is abuse, that is why it is against the law in most civilized countries.
25 Jan 10
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Originally posted by CrowleyDo you think the spanking is any less painful because you claim not to be doing it in anger. I don't even believe you are not doing it in anger. I think you are doing exactly what you father/mother taught you as a kid.
I hope I never lash out in anger.
The first time you spank a kid after losing your temper, you should never do it again. Good on you for admitting it and taking the necessary action.
This is why you need to do the physical act BEFORE you get to the point of no return and you lose your temper.
26 Jan 10
Originally posted by Very RustyHitting kids is abuse, yes.
Like I said you were abused by your father, so you abuse you kids.
Hitting a kid is abuse, that is why it is against the law in most civilized countries.
Spanking a child is teaching them discipline.
If your country is so civilised, why do you need laws to protect kids?
26 Jan 10
Originally posted by CrowleyAs I said in my earlier post, I questioned my students on when a tap became a smack and when a smack became a slap, hit etc. And how old is a child before it recieves "taps"? Some people have been known to say 1 year old - I say that is the start of abuse.
Hitting kids is abuse, yes.
Spanking a child is teaching them discipline.
If your country is so civilised, why do you need laws to protect kids?
26 Jan 10
Originally posted by CrowleyWe also have people like you that think hitting a child is OK, that is why we have those laws.
Hitting kids is abuse, yes.
Spanking a child is teaching them discipline.
If your country is so civilised, why do you need laws to protect kids?
People like me report them. That is about as much as I can tell you on that.
You wouldn't want to let me see you smacking your kid if you happened to be visiting! I would even tell you in advance knowing that you like hitting kids.
26 Jan 10
Originally posted by Very RustyA little harsh, no?
We also have people like you that think hitting a child is OK, that is why we have those laws.
People like me report them. That is about as much as I can tell you on that.
You wouldn't want to let me see you smacking your kid if you happened to be visiting! I would even tell you in advance knowing that you like hitting kids.
I don't spank my son, but I'm starting to think he needs one.
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26 Jan 10
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Originally posted by PhlabibitIf you do it, he will someday knock you on your butt.
A little harsh, no?
I don't spank my son, but I'm starting to think he needs one.
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There are other ways, take things from him he likes, or likes to do. That is real punishment.
Start hitting and it is abuse no matter what you want to tell yourself.
26 Jan 10
Originally posted by Very RustyHe sits for 5 minutes, he's told to say sorry... he loses privileges... but he still keeps coming up with the "You started it" or some other fresh thing.
If you do it, he will someday knock you on your butt.
There are other ways, take things from him he likes, or likes to do. That is real punishment.
Start hitting and it is abuse no matter what you want to tell yourself.
A quick pop on the hine would teach MORE than ANY of that would.
YOU GOT THAT? *holds back of hand up.
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26 Jan 10
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Originally posted by PhlabibitHitting him is abuse. Did you start it? You are teaching him that is the thing to do when someone doesn't listen. Do you do that in the Adult world? Hardly is my bet.
He sits for 5 minutes, he's told to say sorry... he loses privileges... but he still keeps coming up with the "You started it" or some other fresh thing.
A quick pop on the hine would teach MORE than ANY of that would.
YOU GOT THAT? *holds back of hand up.
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He looks up to you and admires you & wants to be just like you right now. You hit him and that will change, and it will not be long before he is telling you he hates you. Not too much longer after that, he will set you on your butt. Time goes quickly.
Listen to my Wise Words, they are for your own good!
26 Jan 10
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Originally posted by Very RustySo, following your idiotic logic:
If you do it, he will someday knock you on your butt.
There are other ways, take things from him he likes, or likes to do. That is real punishment.
Start hitting and it is abuse no matter what you want to tell yourself.
If I spank my daughter she will become violent.
But taking things from her is OK?
So teaching her to steal and bully is OK, as long as I don't spank her?
I hope to one day live in a world that has laws that allow me to shoot the stupid.