25 Nov 07
Originally posted by AttilaTheHornIn as much as I would want my situation to be exactly that, it can't be. I currently have my visitation with my children very regularly and involved with school and health issues for the most part.
I truly sympathize. As far as I'm concerned, you are divorced and that divorce certificate means you never again have to deal with your ex on any level whatsoever. That's what a divorce is. You're rid of this bitch who cares so little about her daughter that all she thinks about is criticizing you when your daughter is in dire need of medical attention ...[text shortened]... divorced. But you are divorced, and therefore you don't have to do so, and you shouldn't.
For this reason and this reason only, I must maintain contact with my ex. Now when my children are grown and gone form her side, My conversations with her will be next to nothing, Barring weddings or God forbid, a child funeral. I will have nothing else to say to her.
I am sorry you have no contact with your own daughter and I hope some day you will soon. That is something I wish on no daddy.
25 Nov 07
Originally posted by ZadadkaI don't know how she remembers me. She was only 4 when I last saw her and I've hardly seen her at all since she was 11 months old. I recognize that it is now her decision, but what does she know? I have no idea. What really angers me is the law's and the court's inability or unwillingness to deal with such situations. The court order should have been enforced years ago, but these idiot judges don't respect their very own court orders. It's all nothing more than a make-work project for lawyers. (They've got to pay the mortgage on their million dollar houses somehow.) And the politicians are idiots for not addressing this issue. None of them get my vote any more.
With respect, I think [b]you deserve more sympathy.
KJC is clearly frustrated, but has control over it.
Moctenretni was right with the first two lines of his post (but he spoilt it with the third bit) for KJC.
Conversely, you have no control, no access, and no confidence in the processes that should have corrected those things...and you are clearl ...[text shortened]... to be?
If she's 24, she's at liberty to decide for herself if she wants contact with you.[/b]
25 Nov 07
Originally posted by AttilaTheHornShe can only contact you if she knows how, i.e. you've both lived in the same town all this time, and if she even knows that you exist, not to mention all the ... stuff her mother may have been telling her about you over the years. All mom has to do is make a couple of outrageous, horrendous claims to your daughter over the years and that'd be enough to make her not want contact with you.
I don't know how she remembers me. She was only 4 when I last saw her and I've hardly seen her at all since she was 11 months old. I recognize that it is now her decision, but what does she know? I have no idea. What really angers me is the law's and the court's inability or unwillingness to deal with such situations. The court order should have been e ...[text shortened]... politicians are idiots for not addressing this issue. None of them get my vote any more.
25 Nov 07
Originally posted by pawnhandlerAll that is true and I've thought of all that before. I doubt that you could suggest anything that I haven't already thought of. However, all this only proves that if you don't have sole custody, then you have nothing, nothing at all.
She can only contact you if she knows how, i.e. you've both lived in the same town all this time, and if she even knows that you exist, not to mention all the ... stuff her mother may have been telling her about you over the years. All mom has to do is make a couple of outrageous, horrendous claims to your daughter over the years and that'd be enough to make her not want contact with you.
What you have is my lawyer falsely advising me that access orders are enforcable and the mother's lawyer in his office across the street advising her how to thwart access orders. And the lawyers rake in the money! Only the lawyers win. The father and especially the child lose.
Court orders for access must be respected and enforced, obviously. But how do you do that? Bear in mind that punishing the mother does not in any conceivable way enforce such an order.
25 Nov 07
Originally posted by KJCavalierI thought it was obvious KJ, a re-read of the context would've made it so.
Coquette hun, I think Huck was referring to the noobe with the attitude.😉
I've only ever broken one bone in my body, and that was in my hand from punching the back of someone's head when i was drunk....she must be in agony. And not being able to walk aswell....what a drag.
01 Feb 08
Originally posted by KJCavalierhappy for you KJ and your Daughter of Course...Even though we Are AT WAR at the moment. we must pause to help the children. Be that as it May, I hope yo u Klingons suffer a miserable defeat in all future outings with The Bladers.!!!!
Just thought I bring this up. She is out of her cast ( a total of 3 splints, 2 casts, and 1 walking boot) and is close to being back to normal with her walking and running.
Good Health to your Daughter and your Family!
01 Feb 08
Originally posted by moctenretniMerciless... haha
If you did the right thing you wouldn't care what your ex thought.
If you did the wrong thing you would be too remorseful to mention it here.
But instead you have Jerry Springer syndrome.......prostitute your emotions on a public forum.....just for some kind of self gratification.....sickening really.
01 Feb 08
Originally posted by KJCavalierShe sounds very frustrated about something.
So here it is in a nutshell. My youngest daughter broke her ankle in 2 places, Above and below the growth plate. So I go to do what any parent worth being called a parent would do? I took her to the emergency room to get treated.
Now what makes this a noteworthy scenario. I am divorced from her mother. Have been for several years now. So you would thin ...[text shortened]... time asking about her own daughter.
Sorry this was more to vent than anything else.
I'd stop her at the height of her rave and say: "Did you take your valium today, darling?"
01 Feb 08
Originally posted by mochironThanks Mochi. And now back to the clan action.
happy for you KJ and your Daughter of Course...Even though we Are AT WAR at the moment. we must pause to help the children. Be that as it May, I hope yo u Klingons suffer a miserable defeat in all future outings with The Bladers.!!!!
Good Health to your Daughter and your Family!
01 Feb 08
Originally posted by moctenretniWith every post of yours that I read I become all the more convinced that you are a prick. Do us a favor and join another site. Perhaps you can find one filled with crass malcontents such as yourself.
I have no doubt about your propensity for compassion or empathy…..my newness not withstanding…….but if this was a private message to long standing and sympathetic members then some kind of personal correspondence might have been more appropriate.
As it stands…well…..it’s distasteful……unless of course his ex is here to defend herself. Even then it seems a little flagrant
Get stuffed...
01 Feb 08
Originally posted by duecerThis is an excellent response. And KJ, you handled a nerve wracking experience with parental expertise. You done good.
her ripping into you has less to do with how you handled it, and more to do with her own fear and anxiety. She is feeling powerless to help her daughter, and redirects that into negative energy towards you. Don't take it personal, and don't dignify her critisism with a response
01 Feb 08
Originally posted by KJCavalierI can see why you divorced her. Yuck!
So here it is in a nutshell. My youngest daughter broke her ankle in 2 places, Above and below the growth plate. So I go to do what any parent worth being called a parent would do? I took her to the emergency room to get treated.
Now what makes this a noteworthy scenario. I am divorced from her mother. Have been for several years now. So you would thin ...[text shortened]... time asking about her own daughter.
Sorry this was more to vent than anything else.