14 Jul 08
Originally posted by TyrannosauruschexIn case it wasn't clear, I was referring to real life with my comments, not an internet chat room. It is hardly a fact to assume that one's first impressions are impossible to change once established since that is based on the will of the person making that judgment.
Most if these 'first impressions' arguements probably rely on the fact that contact is severed with the person after you have made your mind up. This way nothing is able to pierce the bubble of ignorance you have constructed.
How many people go into an internet chatroom with no defence mechanism in place? Not many in this day and age, because th ...[text shortened]... always going to be the 'cool' types who will abuse them the moment they let the guard down.
14 Jul 08
Originally posted by CrowleyPrinciples, Crow: Give the benefit of doubt now and then just for the helluva it and for the mental excercise...
Jesus, were you born in the 19th century?
Anyway, why should anyone extend a courtesy to an idiot?
Obviously not all new members are idiots, but the ones that are get what they deserve: Scorn.
and remember that we seldom go too very far wrong in this life by treating others better than they deserve.
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14 Jul 08
Originally posted by darvlayEff if I know, Darv. Human nature. Desire to be right. Or over-confidence in your own intuitions. I'm not a pshrink and can't claim any great insight in this.
Why is that tough?
How many relationships end, and then later on a person looks back and realizes that they should have seen it coming? But didn't want to admit that their first impression had been wrong.
How many times do you form a bad impression of someone based upon one piece of information and never bother to look any further? Do you really think that those assessments were really that accurate?
Surely you've seen someone you like, who doesn't get along with someone else you like? And they always see the worst in each other, but never see each other's good side. I don't know why it happens but it does.
14 Jul 08
Originally posted by HandyAndyTotally agree with your 90/10 split, Andy. The wise ones refrain from
In spite of your utopian vision, this forum is no more than a microcosm of real life, where cold shoulders outnumber warm welcomes a hundred to one. Do you have any idea of how many new members sign on just to play chess and have no interest whatsoever in the forums? I'd say maybe 90 percent.
posting. My focus was "vocal presence on the RHP General Forum."
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14 Jul 08
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyHow about just an example or two or
Some RHP Members...
Some RHP Members seem to dislike newcomers and outsiders and resent their vocal presence on the RHP General Forum. New members
are the lifeblood of the site. What business do any of us have in turning a cold shoulder if Russ & Chris have already welcomed them?
-gb
is this another generalization thread?
14 Jul 08
Originally posted by leisurelyslothThat only happens if you're not nosey enough in the first place.
How many times do you form a bad impression of someone based upon one piece of information and never bother to look any further? Do you really think that those assessments were really that accurate?
Surely you've seen someone you like, who doesn't get along with someone else you like? And they always see the worst in each other, but never see each other's good side. I don't know why it happens but it does.
That's some pretty narrow minded people you know there! I don't know anyone like that. Honestly I don't.
14 Jul 08
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Originally posted by leisurelyslothI guess I'm the wrong person to discuss this with since I learned early on in life that admitting when your wrong goes a hell of a lot farther than bragging when you're right.
Eff if I know, Darv. Human nature. Desire to be right. Or over-confidence in your own intuitions. I'm not a pshrink and can't claim any great insight in this.
How many relationships end, and then later on a person looks back and realizes that they should have seen it coming? But didn't want to admit that their first impression had been wrong.
ch other, but never see each other's good side. I don't know why it happens but it does.
"How many times do you form a bad impression of someone based upon one piece of information and never bother to look any further? Do you really think that those assessments were really that accurate?"
I can honestly answer that I rarely accept my first impressions as an immediate fact, I treat them as observations and nothing more. Usually if you discuss how you feel about someone based on a first impression you will use the language 'It seemed to me like...' or 'This person came across as...' and not state so plainly that 'This person is...' based on a first impression. With further acquainting and (on the odd occassion) investigation, these observations usually reveal themselves as true if you're a good judge of character, although not always.