There are days when I can handle anything all by self...and I want to.
There are days when sharing the load would be nice...if you can.
Then there are the days when if you look at me cross-eyed I will burst into tears...(yes, it once really happened...it was a really bad day)...
...when I do, please don't laugh, or roll your eyes...just tell me it's okay, everyone feels that way sometimes and if you have a spare hug, I would appreciate it.
I don't think there is a what women want or a what men want....I think everyone wants to be treated well with dignity and respect and with some understanding of who they are as a person. Everyone has days when they need someone to coddle and cosset them, indulge and spoil them. Sometimes, it is quite nice to have someone to coddle, cosset, indulge and spoil.
Originally posted by kirksey957I don't understand, kirsey? explain, please?
Woman: "Your mother doesn't live here so clean it up yourself."
Man: "Your daddy doesn't live here so fix it yourself."
So as to the question what do men want in a woman, Robert Bly answered it best: "Men are looking for a woman who can accept their shadow."
Originally posted by Aynatwell said.
There are days when I can handle anything all by self...and I want to.
There are days when sharing the load would be nice...if you can.
Then there are the days when if you look at me cross-eyed I will burst into tears...(yes, it once really happened...it was a really bad day)...
...when I do, please don't laugh, or roll your eyes...just tell me it's o ...[text shortened]... poil them. Sometimes, it is quite nice to have someone to coddle, cosset, indulge and spoil.
Originally posted by elvendreamgirlThe first part is a joke. Men often hear the woman in their lives say "your mother doesn't live here......" The other line about "fixing it yourself" would be the male answer to that. That's all.
I don't understand, kirsey? explain, please?
The second part about men wanting a woman to accept their shadow is about the dispelling of the myths about who men are. We are not Prince Charming. Neither are we frogs or puppy dog anuses (We grow up hearing that little girls are sugar and spice and everything nice, while boys are frogs, snails and puppy dog tails.) Sounds funny, but these are the images we grow up with that are born out in this thread.
Originally posted by elvendreamgirlShe should be like a queen, out laying the enemy to waste with the king sat at home in the castle with his feet up chatting to a bishop or a night, watching the match from the parapet with a few beers.
I am sensing some pent-up hostility here. I posted this after reading Shavi's thread in the debates about women. I thought I would give you some insight into what can easily solve the rough patches we all go through in relationships.
So tell me, guys, what do YOU want from a woman (not that either)?
it's just a bit risky that she might go off and mate the other guy though.
😛
Originally posted by kirksey957ah! *laughs at joke.
The first part is a joke. Men often hear the woman in their lives say "your mother doesn't live here......" The other line about "fixing it yourself" would be the male answer to that. That's all.
The second part about men wanting a woman to accept their shadow is about the dispelling of the myths about who men are. We are not Prince Charming. ...[text shortened]... ails.) Sounds funny, but these are the images we grow up with that are born out in this thread.
WEll, I was (albeit not well) attempting to address some of the myths about what women are. I guess men and women are led to believe alot of myuths about each other, and that lays the groundwork for alot of misunderstanding between the sexes.
I didn't bother reading all the posts cause they were boring me and I felt a case of ADD coming on, but I have a little something to throw into this:
My girlfriend's name is Kathy and she is nothing like what you have explained, dreamgirl. I know you were just trying to lay out guidelines that you assumed went for all girls but I'm dating an exception as it is, lol. My girlfriend never wants me to solve her problems, nor does she ever let me help with her problems. She is very independant and if I ever try to help she says something like "I can handle this myself, Kevin. Just go." (you may think she sounds b*tchy but I think it's cute for some reason, lol). Anyways though, me and her have only slept together twice and she refuses to let me cuddle with her, saying it makes her feel like she's being sufforcated. When we're in public she will only give me quick one-second kisses, cause she says people will stare at us if we "start going at it right here on the table!" (hehe). I have only seen her cry once, when her aunt passed away like two or three weeks ago, and she made it absolutely clear that she wanted space and did not want me to comfort her, and when we argue it always turns into a big debate (and we have debated everything from how to clean a scratched CD to if the instruction "Serve immediately" on the back of food packets means you have to bring it directly from the oven to the table!) and none of them ever end in a hug or a kiss, they just end and continue drinking our root beer. (oh yes, I broke out the root beer on her!)
I really don't know if she is just a huge exception to your little guidelines or if you're just wrong, dreamgirl, but that's my Kat. 🙂 Ta then.
-Kev