18 Jul 05
Originally posted by fiestaIs this a round-about way of comming out , Diane ? If so , we're ok with all of that , just go ahead and say it .
yeah bit its a sad perception of people "pretending" to be what they are not in real life... I have never bulled myself up to be anything other than the person I am..maybe the people he is conversing with feel a little inferior to RTH ..never chatted to him so wouldnt know...but darvlay.... do we really know anyone.....even the people closest to us can surprise us with things we never knew about them..
18 Jul 05
Originally posted by fiestaVery few people "pretend" to be someone entirely different. I just feel that the anonymity that these forums provide tend to bring out sides of people that may not be so prevalant in their actual social personalities. It gives you a voice and an audience and people will tend to use that to their advantage for myriad reasons, good and bad.
yeah bit its a sad perception of people "pretending" to be what they are not in real life... I have never bulled myself up to be anything other than the person I am..maybe the people he is conversing with feel a little inferior to RTH ..never chatted to him so wouldnt know...but darvlay.... do we really know anyone.....even the people closest to us can surprise us with things we never knew about them..
For me, this forum definitely brings out my mushy, lovey-dovey side.
18 Jul 05
Originally posted by fiestaYou saying this reminds me of the movie "Home for the Holidays" Directed by Jodie Foster.
.... do we really know anyone.....even the people closest to us can surprise us with things we never knew about them..
Excellent movie! If you have not seen it already....Get it. Fast!
RTh
18 Jul 05
Originally posted by darvlaySimilarly you hear- "Well that's not like him/her - they were drunk." I tend to think the opposite . Sometimes you learn more about what someone's really like when they're faced and the inhibitions are down than when they're sober .
Very few people "pretend" to be someone entirely different. I just feel that the anonymity that these forums provide tend to bring out sides of people that may not be so prevalant in their actual social personalities. It gives you a voice and an audience and people will tend to use that to their advantage for myriad reasons, good and bad.
For me, this forum definitely brings out my mushy, lovey-dovey side.
18 Jul 05
Originally posted by darvlayNot me, I am exactly the same here as I am in real life.
Very few people "pretend" to be someone entirely different. I just feel that the anonymity that these forums provide tend to bring out sides of people that may not be so prevalant in their actual social personalities. It gives you a voice and an audience and people will tend to use that to their advantage for myriad reasons, good and bad.
For me, this forum definitely brings out my mushy, lovey-dovey side.
A good friend told me that I can’t be someone I am not when I changed my handle, and that has been totally true. All of the things that I say in these forums I would have not a problem saying to someone’s face (and have) in a bar or on the street. I wonder how many can say that?
RTh
18 Jul 05
Originally posted by RingtailhunterSo you would have no problem calling a woman a man's name to her face in a bar?
All of the things that I say in these forums I would have not a problem saying to someone’s face (and have) in a bar or on the street. I wonder how many can say that?
RTh
18 Jul 05
Originally posted by Ringtailhunterme RTH sometimes wonder if its this that gets me in trouble...
Not me, I am exactly the same here as I am in real life.
A good friend told me that I can’t be someone I am not when I changed my handle, and that has been totally true. All of the things that I say in these forums I would have not a problem saying to someone’s face (and have) in a bar or on the street. I wonder how many can say that?
RTh
18 Jul 05
Originally posted by RingtailhunterI'm not so sure this is true for me. Generally-yes. But I'm not so sure about when it comes to being agressive. I'll admit the only person I've really not gotten along with in the forums (apart from maybe ravello a while ago, but that's ok) is katty. I think in real life I might just have walked off... that's my normal reaction. But otherwise I'd say I'm pretty much the same here as outside.
Not me, I am exactly the same here as I am in real life.
A good friend told me that I can’t be someone I am not when I changed my handle, and that has been totally true. All of the things that I say in these forums I would have not a problem saying to someone’s face (and have) in a bar or on the street. I wonder how many can say that?
RTh
18 Jul 05
Originally posted by darvlayhmmm think you have a point that maybe this is a cover for some people and they can maybe be someone they would like to be in the real life..say more outgoing,or flirtatious,outspoken,whatever...shame cos thats never been something i worried about too much..like to think i take other peoples thoughts and views into consideration,but dont really worry about getting my point across as long as it done in an inoffensive way....
Bear in mind that my comments are not exclusive to aggressive and rude behaviour.
18 Jul 05
Originally posted by angie88
Why are people mad at me? No, obviously I don't mean the people who I've deliberately offended...
At the moment, there are at least 2 people ignoring me without any reason I can see. One has stopped moving for ages in our games (but moves in other games), and both are ignoring my PMs. It sux because I considered both of them pretty good freinds... I don ...[text shortened]... ablabla".
Please? I kinda feel bad, probably because I don't even know what I did...
Angie