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Good Manners and an opening greeting

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MartinS

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Why don't people reply to a courtesy hello and good luck greeting.

I am amazed at the number of people here who don't bother to reply to a friendly greeting.

Sure, I don't like chit chat in a game as it can be distracting, but surely good manners are part of chess!!


(Yes, I am aware that language issues can be a problem; but most of the time I am talking about people flying English speaking nations flags)

mchill
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@martins said
Why don't people reply to a courtesy hello and good luck greeting.

I am amazed at the number of people here who don't bother to reply to a friendly greeting.

Sure, I don't like chit chat in a game as it can be distracting, but surely good manners are part of chess!!


(Yes, I am aware that language issues can be a problem; but most of the time I am talking about people flying English speaking nations flags)
I feel the same, but if someone wants to communicate nothing but the moves, I guess that's their privilege.

MartinS

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@mchill said
I feel the same, but if someone wants to communicate nothing but the moves, I guess that's their privilege.
Fair comment; but I don't think it hurts to be polite and say 'hello'

Ponderable
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@martins said
Fair comment; but I don't think it hurts to be polite and say 'hello'
And most probably the players in question are not reading this thread...

Enjoy your stay!

MartinS

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@Ponderable
Changing the subject

I notice under your name the word 'chemist' appears; how/what is that and how do you put a word there?

moonbus
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@martins said
Why don't people reply to a courtesy hello and good luck greeting.

I am amazed at the number of people here who don't bother to reply to a friendly greeting.

Sure, I don't like chit chat in a game as it can be distracting, but surely good manners are part of chess!!


(Yes, I am aware that language issues can be a problem; but most of the time I am talking about people flying English speaking nations flags)
Hello !


Go to my profile -> Update Profile -> Self Proclaimed Title.


Cheers,
moon (self-proclaimed Über-Nerd)

greenpawn34

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I've always said 'Good Luck' when making my first move with White or Black.
Most reply. the same or something similar, If they don't I'm OK with that.
To be honest I cannot say that I've noticed if they have or not. I'm usually more
interested in their first move.

c

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Say hello if not acknowledged they may have missed what was going on, I missed responding because the site had changed significantly since I was away.

Doesn't mean I'm rude etc just give the benefit of doubt.

RooksandHooks
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@MartinS
if people are playing on the phone they wont see the intro message

elassasino
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As a britisher by birth, I was raised w/ civility aka : manners and thus invariably include a salutation w/ 1st move. I note those that dont respond are also often, the same selfish (can you say trumpsters ) that quit, w/o notice, ... as soon as the tide turns against them & they're down a 3pt + pawn... wasting all that early & midgame effort.
See my profile for more on quitters : }
Paz / jg

Wyn Davies
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@elassasino said
As a britisher by birth
As a British person, you should know that the correct response to a greeting is to make a small grunt and stare at your feet!
Maybe they are doing this instead of typing a reply.

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@wyndavies said
As a British person, you should know that the correct response to a greeting is to make a small grunt and stare at your feet!
Maybe they are doing this instead of typing a reply.
We need a 'laugh' reaction button like in Facebook. In the absence of this, I can just say (as a fellow British person) thanks for making me smile.

I normally say hello to people on the first move, sometimes people reply, sometimes they don't, either is fine.

MartinS

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@wyndavies said
As a British person, you should know that the correct response to a greeting is to make a small grunt and stare at your feet!
Maybe they are doing this instead of typing a reply.
Sir

I disagree.

One acknowledges the greeting; it is good manners.

I cannot challenge you as you are at your limit; I challenge you Sir to pawns at dawn.

I will add you as a buddy so you can accept.

Wyn Davies
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@martins said
Sir

I disagree.

One acknowledges the greeting; it is good manners.

I cannot challenge you as you are at your limit; I challenge you Sir to pawns at dawn.

I will add you as a buddy so you can accept.
I finally!!! managed to work out how to turn buddy options on. So if you want to challenge me it should work now.
My rating is bouncing between 1500 and 1800.
I do well as long as my opponent doesn't use their horsies against me.
Horsies move funny and are scary and confusing.
(In all seriousness, I keep losing to knight forks)

MartinS

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@wyndavies said
I finally!!! managed to work out how to turn buddy options on. So if you want to challenge me it should work now.
My rating is bouncing between 1500 and 1800.
I do well as long as my opponent doesn't use their horsies against me.
Horsies move funny and are scary and confusing.
(In all seriousness, I keep losing to knight forks)
Duly challenged.

I look forward to our game.

Regards

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