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29 Apr 13
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Originally posted by sasquatch672You will have an influence on them as a man, if your relationship with the woman becomes regular, especially if it is exclusive, they will see in you a father figure regardless of what you do. You'll fill a gap. Edit: This depends a lot on the role their father is playing in their lives.
It actually went very well. The girls, as I suspected, were wonderful. They actually took a liking to me, and for my part, the last thing I'm going to do is try to be an authority figure. OK - that's enough of me being sappy.
29 Apr 13
Originally posted by JS357True. If the biological father still plays an active role,
You will have an influence on them as a man, if your relationship with the woman becomes regular, especially if it is exclusive, they will see in you a father figure regardless of what you do. You'll fill a gap. Edit: This depends a lot on the role their father is playing in their lives.
Life can get very complicated.
All you can do is try to provide stability.
You'll never replace the biological father,
but if you can provide stability and offer
a positive influence, well you may have
some success and for your sake and for
everyone else I hope you do.
Just remember the common sense rule.
You have two ears but only one mouth.
So listen twice as much as you speak.
29 Apr 13
Originally posted by johnnylongwoodyJS & JLW - wise words. The father is, by all accounts, not a good individual. I was tempted to discount some of the things that they had said - mama bear and papa bear would display a natural bias toward their daughter in a divorce situation.
True. If the biological father still plays an active role,
Life can get very complicated.
All you can do is try to provide stability.
You'll never replace the biological father,
but if you can provide stability and offer
a positive influence, well you may have
some success and for your sake and for
everyone else I hope you do.
Just re ...[text shortened]... ommon sense rule.
You have two ears but only one mouth.
So listen twice as much as you speak.
Well boys, safe to say, I'm not looking to replace their father, and I'm certainly not going to try to be an authority figure right now. Just going to be good to all of them, and live my own life to the extent possible. One day at a time...
30 Apr 13
Originally posted by sasquatch672my advice is: don't look for advice on internet forums.
Anybody been down this joyful road? I'm dating a girl I've known since fifth grade. I know her parents, we've stayed in touch, both crossed the '40' threshold, and tomorrow morning, I'm supposed to meet her girls. They're 7 and 8. I'm having a range of sensations - chest pains, tunnel vision, cold sweats, uncontrollable shaking, a feeling of dread, ...[text shortened]... terrifying seconds.
Thoughts? Little help? Spare ticket to some African hellhole?
ask a friend, ask your girlfriend.
30 Apr 13
Originally posted by joe beyserThere used to be a radio show on Irish radio many years ago
What???? You guys playing dear Abby or something?
when I was a kid. It was the Frankie Byrne show sponsored
by Jacobs and it only lasted 15 minutes.
People would write in and ask Frankie ( who was a woman )
for advice about certain problems they had.
Frankie always gave the same advice to everyone.
"I think you should go and see your doctor".
I thought the whole show was a waste of time.
04 May 13
The post that was quoted here has been removedCame out of my room, had to use the can.
Oh my God! what's that? A naked man.
Mom never told me about this guy.
She said she'd never have another try.
Still remember horrible nightmares of my dad.
The police came to our house when things got bad.
Blood and handcuffs, read him his rights!
Dragged away in a car with flashing blue lights.
Down the station, mom withdrew her complaint.
Wouldn't even see the judge for an order of restraint.
The very next day dad was back at home.
Abusive as ever, quick reach for the telephone.
The law came back, took him away.
He's in jail now forever and a day.
But mom won't learn, she has a new beau,
another chance of the dice she will throw.
I'm wondering now, just what to say?
Is he another freak or will it be OK?
I really don't want my mom to mingle.
I'd much prefer if she stayed single.
04 May 13
The post that was quoted here has been removedYah well, I don't think it is really your right to judge how other people live their lives. We have only one Master and He isn't a person.
That's my point of view.
Of course if you want to discuss how we should raise kids so that they don't get so screwed up, then start a new topic.