03 Aug 06
Originally posted by BromageI agree with you 100%.
I personally believe divorce is wrong. Regardless of its spiritual significance, marriage is a serious commitment: a vow between two people that they will stay together for the rest of their lives, no matter what. To break this vow is immoral.
What's your opinion? If you think divorce is acceptable, why marry in the first place? If you think it's wrong, wha ...[text shortened]... merely expressing my personal opinion, and welcome the opinions of others wholeheartedly.
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04 Aug 06
Originally posted by kody magicI think you've made a good point here, in that marriage isn't necessary to achieve those things that couples seek by 'tying the knot'. A demonstration of love, financial security and having children can all be successfully achieved without an exchanging of rings.
[b]marriage is a serious commitment
In the UK, there is little additional objective 'commitment' to being married than to living together. The seriousness is mostly subjective and people marry for a number of reasons:
- demonstration of love;
- financial security;
- tradition;
- to have children;
- etc.
None of these actually necessitat ...[text shortened]... re really is no need to further penalise ex-couples.
As an aside, are you married yourself?[/b]
You're right, the idea of a married couple is a nice sentiment, and it is not my own. But when two people swear to remain together "till death do us part" it is supposed to be more than just a sentiment. It is supposed to be an unbreakable vow. I know that many married couples "grow apart" as the years go on, but how many of those do you think sit idly by and watch it happen? How many lack the courage to confront their own issues and the issues in the other person? How many rush into marriage in the first place and naively expect to live happily ever after? I wonder if there's any statistics that might answer these questions.
Yes, some people do become violent, homicidal, psychotic, after a marriage and this is always sad. However, if they really did mean what they said when they swore to stay together "for better or for worse", perhaps they would find ways to support/help the person they love, rather than abandoning them.
I agree with you that many celebrities cheapen marriage when they use it as a publicity stunt and this should not be allowed. There is a new reality TV show in Australia called 'Yasmin's Getting Married', about a 29 yo woman who is due to be married in 2 months, and hundreds of men compete to win her heart. As a viewer, you can even call and vote for who she should end up with! This, too, is a huge insult to the institution of marriage.
I know that most divorces are not easy, and that both partners can be severely punished mentally, emotionally, physically and financially. When there's children involved it adds an entirely new element of suffering.
No, I am not married myself. If it makes any difference, I am involved in a long-term relationship that could be described as "marriage-like".
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04 Aug 06
Originally posted by NimzovichLarsenWhy do you think this debate is a waste of time? I think it's quite a pertinent topic for most western societies.
is there not a "waste of time" forum this could be discussed in?
More importantly, if the debate's a waste of time, why are you bothering to post in it?
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