25 Jan 10
Originally posted by telerionhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bipolar_spectrum
That's interesting. I wasn't aware of that tax arrangement. I should say that I'm not making any normative statement about how transfers from one party to the other should be structured. Certainly, if only for the kids' sake, both parents should be responsible for supporting them. I think the more difficult questions is how much should a spouse be compe ...[text shortened]... itive sense) is to this question. Maybe I'll peruse some literature on the subject today.
25 Jan 10
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Originally posted by ich binimKopfwegWhile from a production viewpoint, divorce is costly to society. I nevertheless agree that it is a very important institution. Ex ante it protects both parties from becoming enslaved if one turns out to be abusive or overly domineering. It may also prevent very large emotional costs both to the parties and the kids, and finally the existence of a divorce option alters the power balance within a marriage towards being more equitable. The division of income and wealth is a big factor in determining just how powerful this institution can be, as well as how it alters power in the relationship, even in a healthy marriage.
I'd rather my parents divorced and got it over with so they can be happy - they're not happy now and neither am I!
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(in the situation I mean)
Also, I am sorry for your situation. I hope things resolve in the best possible way.
25 Jan 10
Originally posted by telerionUnless, of course, you are into that kind of thing. 😛
[b]While from a production viewpoint, divorce is costly to society. I nevertheless agree that it is a very important institution. Ex ante it protects both parties from becoming enslaved if one turns out to be abusive or overly domineering.
25 Jan 10
Originally posted by telerionit's bullet 1 that applies in your case.
I'm sorry. Clinical psychology is not my area
of study. But please do seek a professional for help with this illness.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Denial
Denial is a defense mechanism postulated by Sigmund Freud, in which a person is faced with a fact that is too uncomfortable to accept and rejects it instead, insisting that it is not true despite what may be overwhelming evidence. [1] The subject may use:
* simple denial - deny the reality of the unpleasant fact altogether
* minimisation - admit the fact but deny its seriousness, or
* projection - admit both the fact and seriousness but deny responsibility.
25 Jan 10
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Originally posted by zeeblebotoh definitely!
did you tell 'em? 😲
I made it very clear that I wouldn't feel angry or hurt that they weren't together anymore as I know they don't get on and really only stayed together for the sake of my education and them thinking splitting up would affect my studying - no doubt when the deed is done I shall be a little upset but I'd rather they were happy and I could be happy when I'm around them. Besides, if they don't move on and start enjoying life now it might be too late.
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25 Jan 10
Originally posted by telerionThanks very much 😀
While from a production viewpoint, divorce is costly to society. I nevertheless agree that it is a very important institution. Ex ante it protects both parties from becoming enslaved if one turns out to be abusive or overly domineering. It may also prevent very large emotional costs both to the parties and the kids, and finally the existence of a divorce ...[text shortened]... riage.
Also, I am sorry for your situation. I hope things resolve in the best possible way.
I've had a long time to get used to the whole idea so not that upset by it anymore - it won't change the way I feel about them (so many divorces end up with one parent feeling alienated or the children disliking one of them).
They need to move on and I encourage that
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