@babadad’s “thanks” thread got removed.

@moonbus said
Not farcical. A dating web site once lost control of its database; real names and web names were revealed, and it ruined some marriages.

That happened more than once, in fact.

Also, internet stalkers are a thing, and several of them have killed.

@shallow-blue said
That happened more than once, in fact.

Also, internet stalkers are a thing, and several of them have killed.

Yes, there are some sick people out there. There are people on RHP inexperienced in such matters. Another good reason to keep personal names off of public forums.

@moonbus said
Yes, there are some sick people out there. There are people on RHP inexperienced in such matters. Another good reason to keep personal names off of public forums.

I believe what you say is true. On this site, RHP, I feel that if I'm not too controversial, or interested in other people's private identities and private affairs, then they would not be interested in mine.

@moonbus said
Yes, there are some sick people out there. There are people on RHP inexperienced in such matters. Another good reason to keep personal names off of public forums.

As someone with very limited technical prowess I bow to those who have more. I have used my first name on here fairly often and thus far have not, to my knowledge been stalked. In the meantime I have PM’d the gentleman in question and apologized for any issues my using his name on here might have caused. Damn…have I again, unwittingly, made another apparent TOS boo-boo? 😲

@moonbus said
Not farcical. A dating web site once lost control of its database; real names and web names were revealed, and it ruined some marriages.

Let’s try to stay calm and maintain perspective.

@torunn said
I believe what you say is true. On this site, RHP, I feel that if I'm not too controversial, or interested in other people's private identities and private affairs, then they would not be interested in mine.

Even that has already been proved wrong. Right, Content?

@shallow-blue said
Even that has already been proved wrong. Right, Content?

There was a time here when the GF was an honest and open place, with humour and wit and trust.

@torunn said
There was a time here when the GF was an honest and open place, with humour and wit and trust.

When was this mythical period?

@divegeester said
When was this mythical period?

Back when this site had as its members Russ and mwmiller, and no others.

@divegeester said
When was this mythical period?

When I was new here and was introduced to the forums - the general forum and club forum. I enjoyed reading the threads, the posts, getting to know the players a little bit - until about ten years or so perhaps? No, not quite true. I enjoyed this forum until all complaints and negativity started, some years ago.

@great-big-stees said
As someone with very limited technical prowess I bow to those who have more. I have used my first name on here fairly often and thus far have not, to my knowledge been stalked. In the meantime I have PM’d the gentleman in question and apologized for any issues my using his name on here might have caused. Damn…have I again, unwittingly, made another apparent TOS boo-boo? 😲

Stees, it's not just about you. People here have families, and those people might not be members here at RHP and therefore cannot give consent to having anything at all about them revealed, including first names of themselves or of any relatives who might somehow be link-able to them. Those people have more than a right to privacy; they are entitled to invisibility.

That is the basis of my gripe about Zuck, WhatsApp, and FB, for example; he monetarizes any and all data he can get his mits on, regardless where or how.

If you want to leave your footprints all over the web, that's your decision; just don't spread others' footprints around, ok?

@shallow-blue said
Back when this site had as its members Russ and mwmiller, and no others.

lol.

@moonbus said
Stees, it's not just about you. People here have families, and those people might not be members here at RHP and therefore cannot give consent to having anything at all about them revealed, including first names of themselves or of any relatives who might somehow be link-able to them. Those people have more than a right to privacy; they are entitled to invisibility.

That ...[text shortened]... footprints all over the web, that's your decision; just don't spread others' footprints around, ok?

Leave him alone with your obsessive paranoia 🤨

@great-big-stees said
As someone with very limited technical prowess I bow to those who have more. I have used my first name on here fairly often and thus far have not, to my knowledge been stalked. In the meantime I have PM’d the gentleman in question and apologized for any issues my using his name on here might have caused. Damn…have I again, unwittingly, made another apparent TOS boo-boo? 😲

I know I've made the mistake and said your real name in the public forums as I am so use to talking to you in P.M.'s over the years. You also don't make a big deal of it. Your last name I've never revealed. 🙂

-VR

@torunn said
There was a time here when the GF was an honest and open place, with humour and wit and trust.

It still could be that way, but everyone has to get on the same page! 🙂

-VR