02 Jul 05
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Originally posted by bobbob1056thLoving somebody is not the same as being in an emotional state, although various emotional states tend to come along with loving somebody. When you love somebody, you thereby have an enduring state of character which, as it were, goes "all the way down". The lover's character is transformed by virtue of loving. Loving somebody involves seeing the beloved as an end to be promoted, and many of the idiosyncratic projects of the beloved take on import because they are the beloved's projects. To the lover, the beloved becomes a source of reasons, and these reasons are essentially 'other-regarding', in that they are not purely or even mostly reasons of self-interest. The lover develops dispositions of trust, compassion, generosity, humility when it comes to dealing with the beloved. In essence, the lover and the beloved cease to operate as purely independent entities. In fact, although each retains their sense of identity, both begin to see themselves as constitutive of something greater. They form a new entity, a 'we', of which they are both parts.
What is love?
02 Jul 05
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Originally posted by bobbob1056thWell you see Bob, when a mommy and a daddy, or a daddy and a daddy, or a mommy, a mommy, a daddy, a mommy, a daddy, a daddy, a mommy, a mommy, a daddy, a mommy, a daddy, a mommy, a mommy, a da...You know, by then you don't want to be asking questions...
What is love?
-Fatty