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26 Jan 12
Originally posted by yo its meAh yes, that 'chasing' thing puts me right off... over heard a girl (who was 6 years older than me - supposed to be a woman) i liked talking to her friend "i'm going to make him work for it"... that was the end of that.
I take it all back, I have no idea how to play the dating game. I don't know what a player is and my head is spinning!
Dating, according to my freinds;
Everyone is a player, you're playing the dating game- you're a player too.
You don't tell someone you like them, while you're dating.
You don't text him at all- or only a breif yes, okay I'll meet you ...[text shortened]... not but you don't chase him, ever.
I'm starting to think Trev has a good point.
Don't text? Who is telling you this crap? I know feck all about creating relationships through 'dating' but if you want to create a friend - text - get to know them. From there anything is possible.
29 Jan 12
Originally posted by Trev33It's all a headache isn't it, it's the head space working it all out takes- why did he say that but do that?
Ah yes, that 'chasing' thing puts me right off... over heard a girl (who was 6 years older than me - supposed to be a woman) i liked talking to her friend "i'm going to make him work for it"... that was the end of that.
Don't text? Who is telling you this crap? I know feck all about creating relationships through 'dating' but if you want to create a friend - text - get to know them. From there anything is possible.
I don't know if it's all worth it.
Has dating worked for anyone here (who happens to be reading this thread)?
29 Jan 12
Meeting people in pubs and clubs is the pits, you only meet people who hang out in pubs and clubs, and they'll tell you anything if they fancy you.
I've had much more success making friends in places where others with similar interests hang out, e.g. the car club, the chess club, the night-school after-class cafe session. And as someone else said, look to make friends first, and let what follows follow if there's chemistry.
29 Jan 12
Originally posted by KewpieMy interests are the kids, so I meet lots of other mums. The advice work, so I meet lots of retired people and cleints who are having a bad time. This chess site and swimming, but I go with the other mums and just chat with them at the gym.
Meeting people in pubs and clubs is the pits, you only meet people who hang out in pubs and clubs, and they'll tell you anything if they fancy you.
I've had much more success making friends in places where others with similar interests hang out, e.g. the car club, the chess club, the night-school after-class cafe session. And as someone else said, look to make friends first, and let what follows follow if there's chemistry.
So, it seamed logical to join a dating site, to meet new people and there are lots of people on there, but it's not the same as meeting people through someone, where you know what kind of person they are.
You find it all out through messages and then the meet. It's all a lot of stress!! poeple who say one thing but mean another, people who try so hard to impress you with what they earn or have that you can't get to know who they are, people who are just plain quiet and talking seams like hard work for them! Then there's the added bit of not knowing if they're telling the truth, if they're into you or seeing a few poeple- if they were a freind of a friend then your freind would tell you things they'd said about you and they'd be more respectful because they'd know their behaviour would be known to their freinds/ family. I miss how it used to be when I was young, no expectations, a kiss ment you were togeather, they met your freinds, you met theirs, it was chilled, relaxed and you had all the time in the world.
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30 Jan 12
If i was a woman looking to meet a guy i'd try the heath suit at the local swimming pool i there is one... it's about 80% male but the amount of times i've ended up talking to a woman is unbelievable. And i'm not the talk to random strangers while sober type usually.
Classes are good places to meet people... no idea what class would be mostly guys but if you want to hook up with a woman you could try a cooking glass... dancing is a good one, first aid possibly. I'm totally going to take a salsa class when i go back to Peru 😵
30 Jan 12
Originally posted by Trev33Maybe I'll sign up for a motor machanics class, I do need to know a bit about keeping that car running now that I don't have someone I can ask. The lock on the boot has been stuck for over a week and I don't know how to fill the radiator up. Thats good advice, thanks Trev.
If i was a woman looking to meet a guy i'd try the heath suit at the local swimming pool i there is one... it's about 80% male but the amount of times i've ended up talking to a woman is unbelievable. And i'm not the talk to random strangers while sober type usually.
Classes are good places to meet people... no idea what class would be mostly guys but if ...[text shortened]... one, first aid possibly. I'm totally going to take a salsa class when i go back to Peru 😵
30 Jan 12
Originally posted by KewpieLOL!! that'd be typical luck aye 🙂
Once, as a newly single female, I took a carpentry class with the aim of learning survival skills. Every other member of the class was a female hunting for a male. The tutor was a greyhaired carpenter. A lot of disappointed females in there!
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Originally posted by KewpieAll the guys had signed up to the cooking class 😵
Once, as a newly single female, I took a carpentry class with the aim of learning survival skills. Every other member of the class was a female hunting for a male. The tutor was a greyhaired carpenter. A lot of disappointed females in there!