14 Feb 05
Originally posted by BlobbyYou cannot make anybody like you... just like I can't make all the beautiful women love me. <sigh>
i've done all i can to make you like me, [b] friends ? or not?[/b]
So, rather than waste your important energy with someone who might not like you, you should concentrate more on enjoying the relationships with those who do.
Any female players want to enjoy a relationship w/ me?
😉
14 Feb 05
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Originally posted by arrakisthats the thing there is not 5 that genuinely like me, there's only two people that would talk to me by pm and have a good chat you know, them two people are my good friends
You cannot make anybody like you... just like I can't make all the beautiful women love me. <sigh>
So, rather than waste your important energy with someone who might not like you, you should concentrate more on enjoying the relationshi ...[text shortened]... o.
Any female players want to enjoy a relationship w/ me?
😉
[b] Galxyshield [b]
[b] pinehilluk [b]
i bet you arrakis that there isn't 3 more peopleon rhp that genuinely like me
1.
2.
3.
copy and past this and put your name in, i can guarantee that knowone likes me!
14 Feb 05
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Originally posted by Blobby[/b]Okay Blobby,
thats the thing there is not 5 that genuinely like me, there's only two people that would talk to me by pm and have a good chat you know, them two people are my good friends
[b] Galxyshield [/b}
[b] pinehilluk
i bet you arraki ...[text shortened]... this and put your name in, i can guarantee that knowone likes me![/b]
Have a wee lie down on my couch. There you go. Make yourself feel comfortable.
Yeah sure, go ahead, put your feet up. That's right.
Now, tell me about your problems...
Mhmmm.
Yes.
Mhmmm.
Really? What did your mother think of that?
mhmmmm
Dominating? You felt oppressed?
Yes....
See. I think we've made a breakthrough. You have a low self esteem and have tripped onto a negative spiral in which your ever more extreme attempts of trying to get attention lead to more and more people disliking you, which in turns leads to an ever extremer attempt to get people to like you.
Now. What we want to do here is try to break this vicious circle.
I suggest to you that you follow this three step plan:
1. Don't write/post anything which includes you, your feelings or mentions anybody else on RHP. For at least 2 months.
2. Play only clan games, don't talk about beating people and don't complain about losing...whilst PMing people (we've already established that you will be doing no such thing on the boards).
3. Find a second hobby besides chess on RHP. Preferably one which will bring you into contact with other people. Here are a few suggestions:
A. Warhammer
B. Photography (and build your own webpage to promote your pictures)
C. Badminton
D. Scuba diving.
If you do this, you will soon find your fortunes turning around for you.
Your self esteem will be boosted by your hobby, you'll no longer be bleating like a lost sheep and irritating people and your posts will slowly, but surely, become ever more interesting and funny.
People like people who are interesting and funny.
14 Feb 05
Originally posted by Blobbyno-one likes me:'(:'(😞 my theory was right 🙁
thats the thing there is not 5 that genuinely like me, there's only two people that would talk to me by pm and have a good chat you know, them two people are my good friends
[b] Galxyshield [b]
[b] pinehilluk [b]
i bet you arrakis that there isn't 3 more peopleon rhp that genuinely like me
1.
2.
3.
copy and past this and put your name in, i can guarantee that knowone likes me!
14 Feb 05
Originally posted by shavixmirthat will be $200 lol
Okay Blobby,
Have a wee lie down on my couch. There you go. Make yourself feel comfortable.
Yeah sure, go ahead, put your feet up. That's right.
Now, tell me about your problems...
Mhmmm.
Yes.
Mhmmm.
Really? What did your mother think of that?
mhmmmm
Dominating? You felt oppressed?
Yes....
See. I think we've made a brea ...[text shortened]... come ever more interesting and funny.
People like people who are interesting and funny.
[/b]
fred
14 Feb 05
Originally posted by Blobbylike arrakis already said, you can't make people like you. (btw, arrakis are you good-looking? 😉 ) That's why I was wondering why you set up this big you-beating-me thing... ok, you've proven you can beat me at chess (sometimes), but like I said, I never said you were a worse player than I am. The only reason I can think up for your behaviour is the assumption that if you beat me, we will be the best friends ever... wrong. You can't force me (or fred for that matter) to like you, it doesn't work like that. Friendship can't be bought or won... I for one try to chose my friends carefully.
i've done all i can to make you like me, [b] friends ? or not?
everybody fred here beat me, and he deserved it, [/b]
Angie 😕
PS: Maybe people wouldn't run away from you if you stopped trying so desperately... I don't want to be meaner than I already am being, but if you create the impression that you would do just about anything for someone to be your friend, nobody will. No-one wants what everyone else can have, it's that theory with people only wanting things if they haven't got them. What I really mean is: If you stop trying so hard, people will start likeing you 🙂
14 Feb 05
Originally posted by BlobbyBlobby, that's not the way to maintain friends! You never ASK someone if they like you.
no-one likes me:'(:'(😞 my theory was right 🙁
You've already learned by now that when you were in school it was NEVER COOL to blab around that you liked 'so and so'. No, you had to tell a friend that you could trust, who would tell one of her friends... Eventualy she got the message and even then, she couldn't tell the world she liked you too! NO! She had to hint, smile, maybe use the word of mouth friendship thing to get it back to you.
Alright, so you need to know that because MOST people have feelings and are unsure of themselves, they are under pressure to react to their peers. Basicly what that means, Blobby, is that nobody wants to look stupid in front of their fellow associates. So even people who like you will not come up to defend you in your time of need.
Don't feel alone. The same thing happened to a young man who went by the name of Jesus.
14 Feb 05
Originally posted by arrakisCheer the lad up, will you!
Blobby, that's not the way to maintain friends! You never ASK someone if they like you.
You've already learned by now that when you were in school it was NEVER COOL to blab around that you liked 'so and so'. No, you had to tell a friend that you could trust, who would tell one of her friends... Eventualy she got the message and even then, she couldn ...[text shortened]...
Don't feel alone. The same thing happened to a young man who went by the name of Jesus.
Comparing him to someone who got nailed to a chunk of wood...good grief...
14 Feb 05
angie is completely right...you can never MAKE someone like you it just doesn't work. i always try and be myself because it's not fair on other people to become friends with someone who i'm not. like i said in our PMing session it will always be the case that some people like you and some people don't. there's no point in asking people to be your friend because they ain't going to say no i'm not, they'll say yea i suppose even if they don't mean it, and that gives you a false idea of who your friends are.
like angie said you can't buy or win friends so if you expected me to become your friend because you resigned our games after 4 moves, you were completly wrong.
don't try so hard...just be yourself and people will start to like you more. i've got friends that have never said " i'm your friend" or " i like you" or stuff like that...it doesn't happen like that.
fred
14 Feb 05
It's hard to interpret emotions when they're typed but it seems to me you might be depressed.
About the friends: you gotta stop trying so hard. When you make posts like this, and challenge angie just so people will see you, that doesn't help. If you accept that not everyone will like you now, you'll be on your way to having friends.