28 Mar 09
Originally posted by Bad wolfThis is a very long post for "I want a sexchange".
Recently I've noticed a general tendency of the 'fairer' sex to discuss the most intimate of details with their close friends, about the relationships with their boyfriends, despite these friends further sharing these details with other friends, having no real way of stopping the details spreading to everyone and anyone.
Is this a general trend for the f ...[text shortened]... ding to them also, they discuss it anyway.
Explain yourselves ladies, comments gentlemen?
28 Mar 09
Originally posted by Bad wolfThere's nothing to defend, boy.
Unable to defend your gender I see.
You cannot begin the argument with a half-truth.
"Girls talk about guys and guys don't talk about girls. Discuss."
This is pure bull. Guys talk about girls as much as girls talk about guys. FACT!
And I'd say *your* gender has far more to *try* to defend yourselves about. ðŸ˜
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Originally posted by SuzianneMy question was an open one, if you are so vehemently opposed to the notion that women are more likely to discuss the innards of their relationships with their friends than men, then perhaps some degree of actual arguing and discussion of why and what people discuss is a good idea, quoting supposed facts is hardly one.
There's nothing to defend, boy.
You cannot begin the argument with a half-truth.
"Girls talk about guys and guys don't talk about girls. Discuss."
This is pure bull. Guys talk about girls as much as girls talk about guys. FACT!
And I'd say *your* gender has far more to *try* to defend yourselves about. ðŸ˜
I can only speak from personal experience, keeping in mind that I as one younger than yourself, and less "well travelled", my experience is limited by demographics. Within this though, it has been my experience that girls extensively discuss personal information with their close friends, these friends openly discussing this with other friends, names included; an example of this would be the discussion of the size of the male penis (something highly personal to man in case you are somehow unaware).
This is wrong as far as I'm concerned, it is a breach of privacy, and yet many girls write it off merely as "girly talk" as if this is some sort of proper justification.
On the male side, I as a gentleman, never discuss such things with anyone, neither from my own experience, nor joining in with the discussion about others's personal details. Note though that I shall stress the degree to which something is personal, making the disctinction between the superficial comments like "she's hot or not" away from comments like what turns their lover on.
Perhaps this stems from a personal sense of privacy on my part, however, I have not heard any real degree of discussion among friends about this, it never comes up as a discussion topic. However, again possibly due to the friends I am with.
Speaking from your experience then, how then would you view this? Is this typical, or is this the immature rantings of the younger generation? The demographic I belong to? Or this general trend that I have openly suggested possible? If not, then any amount of generalisations are largely unjustified.
29 Mar 09
Originally posted by Bad wolfNot all ladies suffer from such poor discretion. Personally, I have always believed what goes on in the bedroom should stay in the bedroom and any intimate details should be kept between the two (or more 😛) people it concerns.
Recently I've noticed a general tendency of the 'fairer' sex to discuss the most intimate of details with their close friends, about the relationships with their boyfriends, despite these friends further sharing these details with other friends, having no real way of stopping the details spreading to everyone and anyone.
Is this a general trend for the f ...[text shortened]... ding to them also, they discuss it anyway.
Explain yourselves ladies, comments gentlemen?
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29 Mar 09
Originally posted by Raven69Thank you, a sane woman!
Not all ladies suffer from such poor discretion. Personally, I have always believed what goes on in the bedroom should stay in the bedroom and any intimate details should be kept between the two (or more 😛) people it concerns.
30 Mar 09
Originally posted by Bad wolfThere's a vast difference between women and girls, just as there is between men and boys. There is also a chasm based on what is/was considered acceptable during the formative years. People of both genders who grew up watching people on television discussing the physical attributes and lack thereof of other people are more prone to discuss these about the real people in their lives. They've been taught this by the culture and unless they have a counterbalance, they have no reason to assume that it's tacky. More mature people may or may not discuss it with their very closest friends because it's common to want to bond by sharing an important experience. For women in relationships, the relationships' details are important experiences. Remember that for a number of humans, females bond by talking and men bond by competing. Women generally don't bond by discussing yogurt flavors and sanitary products, regardless of what you see on television.
My question was an open one, if you are so vehemently opposed to the notion that women are more likely to discuss the innards of their relationships with their friends than men, then perhaps some degree of actual arguing and discussion of why and what people discuss is a good idea, quoting supposed facts is hardly one.
I can only speak from personal expe ...[text shortened]... suggested possible? If not, then any amount of generalisations are largely unjustified.
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30 Mar 09
Originally posted by pawnhandlerThanks for the insight, so if I am correct in understand correctly, many women bond by sharing common important experiences? But also, even if this is not within the wishes of the partner?
There's a vast difference between women and girls, just as there is between men and boys. There is also a chasm based on what is/was considered acceptable during the formative years. People of both genders who grew up watching people on television discussing the physical attributes and lack thereof of other people are more prone to discuss these about ...[text shortened]... discussing yogurt flavors and sanitary products, regardless of what you see on television.
Basis in bonding or not, there is still degree of infringement on mutual consent.
Or did I misunderstand the reasoning completely?