Nine words women use

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Maybe the woman should take the words at face value and thank the man for his compliment.

Men have traditionally been stereotyped as the "bad guy" so it would follow that a man should be upset when a woman insults by always guessing that he is being condescending.

In other words, there are people and then there are people. We should not make conclusions based upon gender. In this instance the woman would be no better than the man for assuming the man is being condescending, even if he is. Just because women have traditionally been thought of and treated bad by A PORTION of the male population does NOT give any woman the right to be stereotypical. When all is said and done gender considerations are best left out and anyone stereotyping a gender should be considered a bad person not a "typical male" or a "typical female."

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Nine words they need?

No way a woman can get ANY point across with only nine words.

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Let's take a look at this particular statement.

It is obvious that the word is not what causes the sensitivity. So what you are really trying to say is... women often are sensitive to how it's used toward them by men... But then you are stereotyping men and women! So what you really mean is Men should be careful of how they use the word "intelligent" around me because I am often sensitive how it's used around me by other men.

So maybe if you quit hiding behind your gender and start being honest with yourself you won't be sensitive and paranoid about how people speak around you.

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Yes, but those words would seem that way coming from male or female. Once again, gender is best left out.


P.S. I was not making a comment to your reaction to his statement I was commenting on your statement that women will be looking for any hints that a man is being condescending when that man gives her a compliment.

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'Pre-empt' is comprehensible.

The antonym of compliment is likely to be 'distaste', in this context.

Not all women have been raped, although most have in one way or another. The wagon of her pain doesn't have to continue its path, if she can start living a life of forgiveness. Does she recall, "They know not what they do"?
Apply that to most men, and she'll be getting close! 😉

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You are right. That is an irrational conversation. You should not get into a strangers vehicle no matter what gender. Maybe when the day comes that you can create an argument without making baseless assumptions you will be able to rationally argue your case. Not only did you take my words out of context but you also took them to a radical extreme.


You argue that women and men have different experiences. All people have very different experiences.

You argue that women and men communicate differently and say that women are better at reading people. if you are so great at reading people then you shouldn't have to worry about men. If they are condescending then you should already know this by reading their body language and then avoid them. If a man is a rapist then you should know this by reading him and avoiding him.

And to cap it off here is my own created conversation featuring a woman following your advice and a man who has been one of here best friends for many years.

Man: it never fails to amaze me just how intelligent you are.

Woman: do you mean that or are you being condescending?

Man: of course I mean that why would you ask such a thing?

Woman: because duchess64 said that men are condescending and that us women have to be careful and make sure they are sincere.

Man: but I have been your best friend for years.

Woman: it doesn't matter you are man.

*in walks another woman whose name happens to be stacy*

Woman: why hello Stacy. Did you just get here?

Stacy: gee, aren't you the intelligent one.

Woman: why thank you for calling me intelligent!

Man: but she was being sarcastic!

Woman: oh no she wasn't. duchess64 said that us women just communicate differently from you men and that men can't read people as good as we can. That is obviously why you thought she was being sarcastic when she wasn't.

Man: why does it matter if I am a man or not? That hasn't stopped us from being friendly before!

Woman: I wasn't being assertive enough to say no to you according to duchess64. I will have to be very careful around you now because you might just be another one of those rapists.

Man: but I have never raped anybody in my life!

Woman: it doesn't matter. You are a man.

Man: that's it I'm leaving. Don't bother trying to keep in touch.

*man walks away*

Woman: typical man. I'm glad I listened to duchess64 otherwise he might have insulted me or raped me.

The end.