03 Feb 08
Originally posted by AThousandYoungI did...she is not a drama queen..but its things like this that she over dramatizes...she doesn't live for drama. I know her enough to know that she is not turned on by my "jock" attitude,as she calls it, that I had when I gave her a verbal lashing.
You might want to reread that post of mine. I editted it several times.
03 Feb 08
Originally posted by tomtom232OK. Did anyone's advice help?
I did...she is not a drama queen..but its things like this that she over dramatizes...she doesn't live for drama. I know her enough to know that she is not turned on by my "jock" attitude,as she calls it, that I had when I gave her a verbal lashing.
03 Feb 08
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Originally posted by tomtom232I answered your question. Anything that sounds like "I need space" is bad news.
Nobody answered my question...they gave me advice about something that I have already made my mind up about. It would have been helpful if I had not already made up my mind though.Q
Actually you never even asked a question!
03 Feb 08
Originally posted by tomtom232That sounds to me like "we're young, we need life experience, let's try new things...and new people..."
Okay...you are right...but I don't think she is saying she needs space...she says that we both need to grow up a little.
But ok, you don't need answers any more. Glad things are working out for you.
Drama's about as ungrown-up as you can get though.
03 Feb 08
Originally posted by AThousandYoungMaybe drama is the wrong word then...she isn't being immature...I was the one who was an ass.
That sounds to me like "we're young, we need life experience, let's try new things...and new people..."
But ok, you don't need answers any more. Glad things are working out for you.
Drama's about as ungrown-up as you can get though.
03 Feb 08
Originally posted by tomtom232It's more than likely over.
Maybe drama is the wrong word then...she isn't being immature...I was the one who was an ass.
You messed up. If you punch some nails through wood, taking them out still leaves the holes. On top of it, she only had you as a serious, sexual partner. I'm guessing she hasn't ended the relationship yet because she doesn't know how to.
Talking directly to her about this won't make any difference; if anything, talking about it would make it worse. You apologized, tried to pamper her a little, but there's nothing really more to say, is there? Bringing the issue up again with her will only make things worse because it ruins the mood.
Be natural, be yourself. Don't apologize to her directly again, but make her feel that you want this to work. Don't do things that you did when you were first dating, but try doing things that you both enjoy. For example, a romantic dinner won't work because the mood is completely off, but going out for lunch in a sunny afternoon might.
In my experience, things rarely get back because the person who feels guilty overdoes the apology and keeps the mood gloom by over-pampering the other.