24 Jul 08
Originally posted by bbarrlol, there is no such thing like : "list of all the properties"
Make a list of all the properties you like about the crush, and then show this list to your partner. Ask your partner to cultivate these properties. Either your partner will agree, in which case you will have a partner more to your liking, or she will leave you, in which case you will be free to pursue your crush. In either case, let us all know how it goes.
24 Jul 08
Originally posted by vipiua crush is just sexual attraction that people mistake for love. it is not something you prevent it is just what your body says it would like. you can't stop liking mcdonalds junk but you can stop going there
How to prevent getting a crush on someone ? Is it possible to prevent it or it just happens and you have to accept it ?
24 Jul 08
Originally posted by vipiuNot to put to fine a point on it, but you could simply cowboy-up and control yourself.
work!!! the worst place...
People are so often willing to simply let life happen to them, but in reality we all have choices. You, for instance, can choose to cheat on your wife with this person OR rise above and do what you know is right.
You go down a very, very dangerous path when you start thinking there is "nothing you can do about" your crush, because soon you will be trying to convince yourself that there is nothing you could do about kissing her...so on and so forth.
You ARE in control, and you DO have a choice...make the right one and get back to work.
24 Jul 08
Originally posted by vipiuVisualize what it would be like if you gave in, hooked up, lost your wife, got dumped by your crush, and then had to spend your time at work watching her with the next guy - 'cause if she'll get with you, she'll get with other guys at work too.
work!!! the worst place...
24 Jul 08
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"'cause if she'll get with you, she'll get with other guys at work too"
this is very true, by the way, already happened(between she and other guys 🙂...I hope never with me), you are sooooo right...
what it is very bad is that my wife hates me right now because some poor reasons and even I tried to make her happier she is still upset on me...right now when I need her mostly...
2 big reasons for me to run away....at least for a while(weeks/monthes/maybe even years, God knows)...
what do you think? would this be a valid option ?
24 Jul 08
Originally posted by vipiuRun away? Good god man, what is wrong with you?
"'cause if she'll get with you, she'll get with other guys at work too"
this is very true, by the way, already happened(between she and other guys 🙂...I hope never with me), you are sooooo right...
what it is very bad is that my wife hates me right now because some poor reasons and even I tried to make her happier she is still upset on me...right now whe ...[text shortened]... /monthes/maybe even years, God knows)...
what do you think? would this be a valid option ?
Are you 18, or something? How long have you been married?
24 Jul 08
Originally posted by vipiuI advanced a little without doing any wrong step(for my conscience) and I noticed she is very easy to get....and I like that somehow my crush is getting reduced...you know: easy to get...not challenging...not so cool...etc
"'cause if she'll get with you, she'll get with other guys at work too"
this is very true, by the way, already happened(between she and other guys 🙂...I hope never with me),
I love my wife, but for the moment we are not feeling good when we are together...I have to fix this...