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28 Apr 09
Originally posted by Very RustyAnd if the "shoe" doesn't fit?
Nah, just as Darvlay... he is around in the messengers, e-mail, and that is about as far as I would like to go on that.
I really don't know why "Some" are so upset, he broke the rules, and like others who broke the rules was banned. At least now they do know what it is like to lose a friend from the site, as many of the rest of us have had to go throu ...[text shortened]... me spending a little time in the other guys shoes, gives you a much better outlook on things.
28 Apr 09
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Originally posted by Very RustyHappy to reply publicly, Rusty. In the interest of avoiding an overkill post, please help me understand which contradiction you are primarily
I would love to see the posts where all this mutual respect and friendship took place, I sure missed a lot of stuff.
Could you point out those particular posts to me?
interested in. How Darvlay and yours truly could possibly be friends or how that possibility avoids violating my genuine friendship with you?
28 Apr 09
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyI thought what I asked was pretty straight forward...Posts that showed there was friendship, or "Respect" shown from both you and he. I just had never seen the young man say anything nice to you in the public forum.
Happy to reply publicly, Rusty. In the interest of avoiding an overkill post, please help me understand which contradiction you are primarily
interested in. How Darvlay and yours truly could possibly be friends or how that possibility avoids violating my genuine friendship with you?
Has absolutely nothing to do with our friendship, or shouldn't. I don't know why you would even suggest such a silly thing. What would one possibly have to do with the other?
28 Apr 09
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyUnnecessary sycophantics.
Darvlay's Departure, April '09
Last few days it's become apparent that there's a lot of relativistic thinking and situational ethics in play on this general forum (and some
confusion regarding my sentiments toward Darvlay). Unlikely as it may seem, the two of us enjoyed a low key friendship based on mutual
respect and trust for the past ...[text shortened]... spite our different styles. Darv knows I also respect Russ' authority and rules.
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28 Apr 09
Originally posted by Very RustyYou're still a bonehead.
I thought what I asked was pretty straight forward...Posts that showed there was friendship, or "Respect" shown from both you and he. I just had never seen the young man say anything nice to you in the public forum.
Has absolutely nothing to do with our friendship, or shouldn't. I don't know why you would even suggest such a silly thing. What would one possibly have to do with the other?
28 Apr 09
Originally posted by Very RustyOkay. Just wanted to avoid making wrong assumptions. Will make it a point to put you fully in the picture first thing after coffee in the morning.
I thought what I asked was pretty straight forward...Posts that showed there was friendship, or "Respect" shown from both you and he. I just had never seen the young man say anything nice to you in the public forum.
Has absolutely nothing to do with our friendship, or shouldn't. I don't know why you would even suggest such a silly thing. What would one possibly have to do with the other?
29 Apr 09
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyI stand corrected, of course I should have asked you that question in Private.
Happy to reply publicly, Rusty. In the interest of avoiding an overkill post, please help me understand which contradiction you are primarily
interested in. How Darvlay and yours truly could possibly be friends or how that possibility avoids violating my genuine friendship with you?
30 Apr 09
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Originally posted by Very RustyOur friendship locked horns circumstantially. Last half of 2007 I was exclusively focused on chess, totally absorbed with getting back on stride after decades of layoff. Around Christmas I accidentally discovered this general forum. By mid January some posters had begun to welcome me while others began voicing their various criticisms of my points of view, dinosaur ignorance of internet protocols and personal style.
I would love to see the posts where all this mutual respect and friendship took place, I sure missed a lot of stuff.
Could you point out those particular posts to me?
Darvlay did neither. Instead, he observed the unfolding scene and somehow became convinced he was witnessing the second advent of Bowmann. He then aggressively seized opportunity to state his belief publicly. He seemed like a live wire, so I played along with his high wattaged game for awhile. Realizing it was getting out of hand, I sent him a pm suggesting we discuss his perceptions privately with messages during a game. During March, 2008, Darv took great effort to spell out the basis of his preliminary conclusions. Never before or since have I received in-game messages as lengthy as his well thought through numbered paragraphs. Primary contention was that I seemed to be aware of 'Darvlay attitudes and appreciations' that only Bowmann would possibly know.
To fully answer his unyielding questions required considerable disclosure of personal details, including an exchange of email addresses, which I was happy to do. Game concluded with his magnificent ficton finally put to rest and a fledging friendship curiously in motion. During the past twelve months we've casually stayed in touch, mostly with good natured trash talk in both public and private forums. He contributed regularly and generously to my "Gals versus Guys" general forum game in March. Our last direct conversation took place a few weeks ago in Ice Cold's 'Cowboys from Hell' private club.
The final posts are still vivid in memory. Ironically they involved his questions to me regarding a recently banned member, my replies, his further questions and my summary statement (which included a reminder of the fact that the two of us, also, still shared a kindred spirit which appreciated candor and brutal honesty; instinctively rejected superficiality in any form; and embraced rough love). Darv's last words to me were, "Fair enough."
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30 Apr 09
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyPostscript: Napoleon, Julius Caesar, other leaders since (who have become vulnerable to making wrong decisions by listening too closely to their
Darvlay's Departure, April '09
Last few days it's become apparent that there's a lot of relativistic thinking and situational ethics in play on this general forum (and some
confusion regarding my sentiments toward Darvlay). Unlikely as it may seem, the two of us enjoyed a low key friendship based on mutual
respect and trust for the past ...[text shortened]... spite our different styles. Darv knows I also respect Russ' authority and rules.
-gb
trusted advisors, aides-de-camp or self absorbed subjectivity) eventually exhibit tragic character flaws to their detriment. They're not alone. RHP
Members with superior intelligence or savoir faire may also become prone to misreading and underestimating other members and Russ & Chris.
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