26 May 05
Originally posted by TDR1Do you think that what she's doing is wrong because you think she shouldn't be having sex at all, or rather because you think that if she's having sex, it ought to be with you?
my friend is a freshman in highschool like me (15 years old). Today i just found out that over the weeked, she had sex with a junior. I've tried to explain it, but how do u talk to her about what could happen? She doesnt think she'll get pregnant or contract any diseases, as long as her partner uses a condom. On top of this, she has given oral sex 3 or 4 time ...[text shortened]... be helped?? How can i help her see what she's doing is wrong???
thanks for any help
-todd
26 May 05
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Originally posted by ark13
I can answer the first two from my own experience, and reading the post. The last two are more personal.
Yes, it goes, freshmen, sophmore, junior, senior.
Yes, condoms are used.
Edit: Oops! Confused ark13 with TDR1 rendering my post obsolete.
Shows how much I am paying attention.
26 May 05
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Originally posted by shavixmirShav....
Is a junior older or younger than a freshman?
The girl does use condoms?
Does she fancy the people she has sex with?
Are you in love with her?
If you can answer these questions, I'll be able to advise you better.
in highschool it goes:
9th grade -Freshman
10th grade- Sophomore
11th Grade-Junior
12 Grade- Senior
2)She does not use a condom, but her partner does
3)No...she is not in love with them. She just does it because she can.
4)No i am not in love with her...i am currently going out with like my best girl friend i have...thats a whole different story though
Others....
Thank you for all of the help. Now that i have cooled down, i realize i should not be angry, just try to help. I really appreciate all this though. I will do the things mentioned, and let you guys know how it goes.
-todd
P.s. i am a male. And why is it unnatural for a guy to be close friends with a girl and nothing more? I see nothing wrong with this, and id like to know why you thing this.
26 May 05
Originally posted by TDR1im sorry but your friend is a slut. Yes you should be angry if you actually care about her. You can always show her some pics of people with aids. Don't you have sex ed or something. It is a filthy world we live in!
my friend is a freshman in highschool like me (15 years old). Today i just found out that over the weeked, she had sex with a junior. I've tried to explain it, but how do u talk to her about what could happen? She doesnt think she'll get pregnant or contract any diseases, as long as her partner uses a condom. On top of this, she has given oral sex 3 or 4 time ...[text shortened]... be helped?? How can i help her see what she's doing is wrong???
thanks for any help
-todd
26 May 05
Originally posted by TDR1it's not. i have a few female who i'm closer to than most of my male friends. it's not un-natural at all. i talk to them about all sorts, i suppose that some guys just communicate with girls better than other girls.
P.s. i am a male. And why is it unnatural for a guy to be close friends with a girl and nothing more?
fred
26 May 05
Originally posted by thenegativeinfinity1the sad part is...we do (or did) have sex ed for a comulative year (1 Trimester in 5th,6th, and 7th grade)
im sorry but your friend is a slut. Yes you should be angry if you actually care about her. You can always show her some pics of people with aids. Don't you have sex ed or something. It is a filthy world we live in!
26 May 05
Originally posted by bbarrReally, the choice is up to her in the end.....but....I care about her so much as a friend(nothing more) that i dont want anything bad to happen to her. And she is very smart. she has a very bright future and i dont wont her messing it up.
Do you think that what she's doing is wrong because you think she shouldn't be having sex at all, or rather because you think that if she's having sex, it ought to be with you?
26 May 05
Originally posted by TDR1im sorry but i really have no sypathy for the insanely ignorant, but you do care about her though so try and help her out other wise i dont know what to tell you.
the sad part is...we do (or did) have sex ed for a comulative year (1 Trimester in 5th,6th, and 7th grade)
26 May 05
Originally posted by Freddie2004I had a good female friend who I used to work beside. She was a lot younger than me but we got on very well. Her father was killed in an accident when she was 14 and I think she saw me as a sort of father figure. We had the same tastes in music and were both active in union work as well and in fact i got on better with her than my own daughter's. Well the place we worked in closed down and we were all made redundant. She started phoning me at my house just for a chat and one day I was out and my wife answered the phone and went mental. I had to get the phone number changed and also i would be given my marching orders if I got in touch with her again. My wife has a couple of male friends whom she has known for years and i do not go on like that.
it's not. i have a few female who i'm closer to than most of my male friends. it's not un-natural at all. i talk to them about all sorts, i suppose that some guys just communicate with girls better than other girls.
fred
26 May 05
Originally posted by heldenwtf has that got to do with this thread?
I had a good female friend who I used to work beside. She was a lot younger than me but we got on very well. Her father was killed in an accident when she was 14 and I think she saw me as a sort of father figure. We had the same tastes in music and were both active in union work as well and in fact i got on better with her than my own daughter's. Well th ...[text shortened]... My wife has a couple of male friends whom she has known for years and i do not go on like that.
26 May 05
Originally posted by heldenthats screwed up, one time i brought a female friend and i left my room when i came back she was laying on my bed being relaxed and my stepmom comes in and looks at her crazy eyed and says loud right in front of her and says "you need to tell your friend to leave!" harsh!!!!!!!!!!
I had a good female friend who I used to work beside. She was a lot younger than me but we got on very well. Her father was killed in an accident when she was 14 and I think she saw me as a sort of father figure. We had the same tastes in music and were both active in union work as well and in fact i got on better with her than my own daughter's. Well th ...[text shortened]... My wife has a couple of male friends whom she has known for years and i do not go on like that.
27 May 05
todd. evidentley it,s tough for you to take that your friend is having varied relationships. i know it's tough, but you have to put away any anger + try to understand that while you are both maturing, you,re not doing so at the same rate. obviously she feels she is ready for these types of activities. and while you're not, that won't stop her from doing what she's doing. try this: GENTLY!! let her know that what she is doing MAY not necessarily be wrong,but that if she's doing it w/more than one partner someone is bound to flap his lips. think of this problem as a game o' chess REASON your way around it. don't show her you're angry or hurt, she'll only get defensive. luck to both of you. marc.