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29 Nov 07
29 Nov 07
Originally posted by PocketKingsI think that like T-chex already said if you can find out something else to do and really commit yourself to it can be benefitial. But I'm guessing that in the AA you can get better advices.
thanks, i hope so
And congrats on your decision. May you stick by it for a long time.
29 Nov 07
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Originally posted by adam warlockI wish you good luck too PK. 🙂
I think that like T-chex already said if you can find out something else to do and really commit yourself to it can be benefitial. But I'm guessing that in the AA you can get better advices.
And congrats on your decision. May you stick by it for a long time.
Give yourself small rewards as you pass each milestone.
No... I don't mean one pint after 1 day and two pints after day 2 etc 😛
Think of the money you are saving over a given period, say one week/ one month.
Think of a specific thing that you would like to buy yourself as a reward for going one week / one month.
Like that.
And if you do falter, when you next try....don't tell people.....not here, and not friends, or even family.....just do it....you take away a surprising amount of pressure on yourself, and feel greater pride in every day you achieve because YOU did it.
Again, good luck PK.
29 Nov 07
Originally posted by PocketKingsThere is only one way to be sure you will not start again, however it is rather drastic and that is, kill yourself.
It has cost me to many good things in my life recently, and I'm done. Any advice on how to be sure I don't start again?
No-one can keep you off the drink other than yourself. You can tell others you are not drinking but have a "fly half" or "nip" in the house. The only person you are then kidding that you have quit is yourself.
Good luck, if that is what you truly want.
29 Nov 07
Originally posted by adramforallNow, see, if you'd read my post, you'd have seen that there are ways to say things, and there are ways to say things.
There is only one way to be sure you will not start again, however it is rather drastic and that is, kill yourself.
No-one can keep you off the drink other than yourself. You can tell others you are not drinking but have a "fly half" or "nip" in the house. The only person you are then kidding that you have quit is yourself.
Good luck, if that is what you truly want.
Still listening to Leonard Cohen? 😉
29 Nov 07
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29 Nov 07
Originally posted by PocketKingsWell, I think you have to decide whether you have control or not. If it doesn't bother you whether you have a drink or not, or if you can just walk away after a couple.
Its much different for me now, I'm serious, i think it became a big problem. Does anyone have experience with this?
But if it's something you have little control over and do it even if you know it's bad for you then you have to quit completely. (this applies to any addiction like gambling, sex, drugs and yes, cigarettes). There can be no middle road.
As for coping, I guess it depends on how bad quitting can be for you. You might find a sympathetic doctor based at a rehab clinic who knows about these things and will prescribe the right vitamins and minerals you will need to balance your system. And then blood tests to check liver, blood cell functions etc.
If it's less severe, then support groups - AA and/or online could well be enough. And keep away from the triggers - the pub for example, or that group of friends.
Finally, develop a chocolate habit. I did 8-) Frankly, the only thing I miss is a decent red wine and French champagne.
29 Nov 07
Originally posted by PocketKingsYeah, drank daily all my life since age 18, it started escalating bady in my late 40's, felt and looked like hell when I turned 55, almost went to AA but didn't. I quit after one horrific "lost weekend" when I went through an all day black out after starting drinking straight whiskey at 8 AM, don't remember anything after noon, even though I was up and about and still drinking until I passed out mercifully at 8 that night.
Its much different for me now, I'm serious, i think it became a big problem. Does anyone have experience with this?
I felt so ill and miserable the next day I haven't touched a drop, also because I was horrified when I discovered that I had knocked over my motor scooter when pulling into the driveway and didn't remember it. Yep, I DROVE to the store for more alcohol at some point. That was over two months ago, the sick realization that I could be in prison now but for the grace of God has kept me sober, I plan on staying so. Good luck to you, AA may be a good idea.
29 Nov 07
Originally posted by adramforallGeez, if there is a suicide death by him I will have give your name to the authorities. Dont listen to him, obviously he doesn't know what to do.
There is only one way to be sure you will not start again, however it is rather drastic and that is, kill yourself.
No-one can keep you off the drink other than yourself. You can tell others you are not drinking but have a "fly half" or "nip" in the house. The only person you are then kidding that you have quit is yourself.
Good luck, if that is what you truly want.
Stay away from friends that are into vodka and stuff like that. Ironic you drink you die, you don't drink you suicide. Does that make sense?
iPods help a bit (if you are listening to the right stuff). Good luck. I also know for younger people who havn't started. Dont start at all. It is premature death.
30 Nov 07
Originally posted by PocketKingsIn serious answer to your question - go to your doctor and ask for Antabuse (Disulfiram). If you take one tab a day you will be severely ill if you have alcohol intake of any kind or level.
It has cost me to many good things in my life recently, and I'm done. Any advice on how to be sure I don't start again?
I've known lots of people who have been alcohol dependent, not necessarily aloholic but certainly dependent, who have tried Antabuse with good success. It is a great deterrent - well stopper - if you commit to taking it. A six months course will usually give you time to re-adjust your life and habits without the involvement of alcohol. You can still socialise AND go to the pub - knowing that you must drink coke or orange or the likes - or you will be ill. It will build your strength to say I am tea-total to anybody who offers you a drink.
My advice would be, if you are serious about quitting for good, to take a 6 months course of Antabuse! 😉