What can one do about a poor loser / slow mover?

@Obieonekinobi
Another thing to keep in mind is that in regular open invites and challenges, until 2 moves have been completed, you have the option to delete the game if you don't want to play that person.

But I'm prety sure that is not the case in tournaments, ladder games, etc. So if you sign up for any of those, you do not have the option to delete the game at all, but I guess you can still just resign if that will resolve your problem with another player.

@mwmiller
Thanks... I think the guidelines actually say "3 moves," I'll have to go back and check. Since this has occurred I've been going back and rereading the rules.

@Obieonekinobi
Unless something has changed recently, I think you will find that when Black completes their 2nd move, the 'delete game' icon will be gone. But just to make sure, watch closely for yourself on your next new game. 🙂

@mwmiller
Thanks... you should know. Jesus... look at the years you've been engaged and how many moves you've made. Impressive.

@Obieonekinobi said
@mwmiller
Thanks... you should know. Jesus... look at the years you've been engaged and how many moves you've made. Impressive.

@Very-Rusty
Thanks... the question has been well-answered, and I'm appreciative of most of the input that I received.

@Obieonekinobi

In addition to the answers you have already received I would offer the following.

If your opponent is genuinely employing the dead man's defence (hoping you die) they are trying to use your Anger, Boredom, Complacency, Frustration and Impatience against you such that you are goaded into making a mistake. If you use some of the time whilst it is their move to analyse the position and look for your best replies to their likely moves it will help keep the game fresh in your mind and you won't come to it cold when their move eventually arrives. It also means that you are in effect doubling your own potential thinking time to the maximum. If it turns out that they play one of the expected moves you are able to enjoy the feeling that the game is progressing as you expect. If you have a very good position you may be able to find the most brutal win, or the most pedestrian, or prosaic or artistic, or risk free or whatever suits your mood.

Unlike some other correspondence style chess sites RHP allows the input of "non-linear conditional moves" via its deep mode, which means that you can cover a vast array of possible variations and offshoots, input them and let the game play itself in the background. You can allow yourself a knowing smirk every time you notice that your opponent has moved and the automatic reply has been sent as the game moves up and down in your game list! Get it right and in a 21 day timeout game you could indeed play for a year or more without having to think about the game at all. This kind of analysis and checking over variations will help improve your game overall as well as negate your opponents tactics. Done right with all possibilities covered and inputted it is even possible to die during the game and still win it - the ultimate victory!

@Obieonekinobi said
@Great-Big-Stees
No big deal guys, (and gals). I've gotten enough feedback, and it has all (well most all) been very informing. I will, for sure start, start looking closer at my potential opponents time-out before engaging with them from now on
to avoid this in the future.

@venda said
Whatever you decide,I would advise against resigning.That is just what the opponent is hoping for.I would employ the same tactics.Wait until the time out is almost up and then move.

@Great-Big-Stees said
Ya. Like my game (passing the 7th year in 😲)with a certain Irishman…NEVER, relent.👍

@Very-Rusty said
Jeeze Stees, what kind of time limits are in effect in that game? 7 YEARS!!!! Tell me you're exaggerating. 🙂

-VR

@Great-Big-Stees said
It’s been over 7 years but I’m guessing 3/7?🤔

@Ragwort said
@Obieonekinobi

In addition to the answers you have already received I would offer the following.

If your opponent is genuinely employing the dead man's defence (hoping you die) they are trying to use your Anger, Boredom, Complacency, Frustration and Impatience against you such that you are goaded into making a mistake. If you use some of the time whilst it is their mov ...[text shortened]... red and inputted it is even possible to die during the game and still win it - the ultimate victory!

@moonbus said
Good advice. I would add that the NOTES function is available to you to write down and save proposed moves/replies. Your opponent cannot see them, only you see them.

@moonbus said
Gad, that's like a president falling asleep during a debate with a former president who fell asleep during a felony trial -----