17 Jan 11
Originally posted by souvereinI think I get ya, but I don't see the connection with religions. I understand that some religious marriages can be pretty miserable because they are so final. But I hadn't thought that they would be so intense that the couple are expected to share what they are thinking- for example.
I find it interesting to watch how we are influenced by religion. I am not a believer or denier of gods.
Sorry if I was unclear, but polygamy was not in my mind.😳 I was trying to convey that the institute of sacral, sacramental and lifelong marriage has contributed to the idea that you should share all and everything with one person. To me that is an erroneous idea, which can lead to a lot of misery.
Am I getting what you mean or not?
17 Jan 11
Originally posted by yo its meSo, if it is not religious influence what makes some people feel they have to share everything with the same person?
I think I get ya, but I don't see the connection with religions. I understand that some religious marriages can be pretty miserable because they are so final. But I hadn't thought that they would be so intense that the couple are expected to share what they are thinking- for example.
Am I getting what you mean or not?
17 Jan 11
Originally posted by souvereinI'm not sure that 'partners' do feel that way- I'm here chatting in a forum with you, our partners aren't involved are they?
So, if it is not religious influence what makes some people feel they have to share everything with the same person?
I guess what's confusing me is, what you define as 'sharing everything' and weather religious unions change perspective on the decision to have a marriage that includes the meaning, as you see it- if you get me.
Right, time to 'hit the hay' for me, catch ya next time.
18 Jan 11
I don't think it's a great idea to be totally dependent on your life-partner for your emotional needs. I have seen what happens to the survivor of a childless marriage. Both males and females need same-sex companions, if for nothing else than a second opinion when you're not sure what to do about the situation you're in. Females enjoy small talk, many men just hate it. Why should I interrupt my husband's woodworking activities when I have single female friends who are starved for companionship?
18 Jan 11
Originally posted by yo its meI wasn't pointing at you. Some feel more that way than others. Just read the reactions in this forum. I was just wondering what is causing these difference in life view. Culture, upbringing, experience or a different gen? In my previous post I suggested that religion contributes to our point of view in these matters. I cannot prove that, but googling on marital fidelity may give some insight.
I'm not sure that 'partners' do feel that way- I'm here chatting in a forum with you, our partners aren't involved are they?
I guess what's confusing me is, what you define as 'sharing everything' and weather religious unions change perspective on the decision to have a marriage that includes the meaning, as you see it- if you get me.
Right, time to 'hit the hay' for me, catch ya next time.
