Originally posted by rockerjimStop talking to both and find new friends.
Hi guys,
I just need advice.
There's this girl I'm friends with right, and she and myself enjoy each others company very much.
The only thing that is stopping us from going out is her friend. I am friends with her friend (not as well as this girl i like though),
And she basically said that I met her first, so that basically means I cannot go out wi ...[text shortened]... d a few months later I met the girl that I like, and they just happen to be friends.
Jim.
Originally posted by Hand of HecateI don't think he's a fat, bitter alcoholic just yet.
I'm not. If he'd taken my advice he'd have tapped both of those chicks by now.
Instead, he didn't even get a goodnight kiss. Gay. Asking for a kiss. Gay. Not kissing her Mom and grabbing a handful of milf ass. Gay. Poor boy probably cried himself to sleep.
With my intense, 12 Step Voodoo Poonanny Domination Program (DVD $29.95 +S&H), he'l ...[text shortened]... you're into her' of my self help book, 'Who Moved My Snapper'😉.
He needs my help.
Originally posted by rockerjim
Hi guys,
There's this girl I'm friends with right, and she and myself enjoy each others company very much.
The only thing that is stopping us from going out is her friend. I am friends with her friend (not as well as this girl i like though),
And she basically said that I met her first, so that basically means I cannot go out with the girl I like.
Wrong, and silly. In all seriousness, it sounds like petty jealousness, hints at a possessive nature.
Now the girl i met first said that IF I went out with the girl I like, she would tear apart their whole friendship group. And so, the girl I like is now too scared.
The first girl sounds a little bit on the crazy side. If it turns out she likes you, be careful. Sounds like the type that would pull out a bread knife. Hell hath no fury...
I need some advice, should I just ask her if she likes me and go in for the kill the next time we meet, or should I just move on and sail the stormy seas?
By all means, ask the girl you like if she likes you. But, make your own feelings clear. If going for the kill, try and be a bit discrete about it! i.e. if possible, engineer a situation where you and the girl you like have a bit of time and uninterrupted space alone together. Don't treat the 'first girl' with any disdain while she isn't there, or express any form of contempt, whether warranted or not. This is excellent advice in life, but goes X10000 if talking about a girl to her friend behind her back!!!
Any serious answers will be appreciated, I'm a Dude in Distress
But the thing is, she isn't my girlfriend, shes just a girl that I met,
and a few months later I met the girl that I like, and they just happen to be friends.
Your freedom of choice shouldn't be compromised by another person's petty threats, no matter how good a friend she is. If you are confident in your feelings, I advise you explain your situation, and how you feel, to the girl you like. As long as you are honest, and explain it in a diplomatic way (one that doesn't belittle your mutual friend), you will get a solution.😕
Candid honesty will make you appear sweet and trustworthy. 😏 It should go all right. Don't hide the relationship though.
And, if it goes badly, there's still no disgrace in that. You've made your feelings clear, and nothing should be regrettable about that. If she or your first friend can't handle that, it's a lack of maturity on their part.
Originally posted by SunburntI'm just trying to save him some time. Rather than bumble his way through years of failed relationships I'm giving him the gift of objectivity now. He's all a twitter with the idea of love. Hell, love is more insidious then religion in corrupting our youth. The sooner he realizes that ruthlessness is it's own reward, the better. It would be child abuse to pretend that life is anything but despair.
Nice outlook. He's 17. How about we give his life a chance? Before you envision despair and failure for him?
Originally posted by patrickrutgersJust play it cool for awhile and let the girls fight it out between themselves. No gal likes to see a guy that is looking desperate. Self-confidence and independence are very appealing. Hang out with your buddies for awhile and let those girl friends see that it is no big deal for you. This is your grandmother speaking. I have been around the block a few times.
Isn't it for just this situation that George tells Jerry to suggest a manage a trois?