Love Hurts

Originally posted by sangfroid
Why does love hurt so much? Unrequited love is the worst, I fear I am now in the 'friend zone'. My only solution to this so far is to get as drunk as I possibly can and use internet porn.

The thing is, we go out, just the two of us and have some amazing times, do everything that a couple would do, have moonlight walks along the river blah blah blah but ...[text shortened]... ed at chess, and getting drunk seems like my alternative,

Love hurts hey, or is it just me?

Aww. 🙁

*hug*

Originally posted by sangfroid
Why does love hurt so much? Unrequited love is the worst, I fear I am now in the 'friend zone'. My only solution to this so far is to get as drunk as I possibly can and use internet porn.

The thing is, we go out, just the two of us and have some amazing times, do everything that a couple would do, have moonlight walks along the river blah blah blah but ...[text shortened]... ed at chess, and getting drunk seems like my alternative,

Love hurts hey, or is it just me?

It's not just you. We've all been there.

I recommend telling her how you feel. If she doesn't feel the same way then you need to decide if you really want to be her friend anyway. Be honest with yourself. If she got a boyfriend would you still want to be her friend? Maybe you would, maybe you wouldn't. One things for sure, she is not your golden key to happiness. No one is.

Just make sure you are a good person and treat everyone well and you don't need to worry about anything. You will sort your head out much more effectively without lots of alcohol.

Originally posted by twiceaknight
It's not just you. We've all been there.

If she got a boyfriend would you still want to be her friend? Maybe you would, maybe you wouldn't.

Well she has recently split up with her boyfriend, I have had to endure weeks of how wonderful this guy is, then days of how much she hates him, and why can't she just find a guy who treats her well and loves her for who she is, HOW ABOUT ME!!!???

The thing is, I know deep down what her reaction will be if I tell her my feelings. I am not so naive as to delude myself that my love will be reciprocated if I tell of my undying love for her. Everything that we do together I read signals into her body language and convince myself that she feels the same. She doesn't of course and sees everything that we do as being just really close friends.

I just want to thank all of you for your replies, some of them made me laugh and made me realise how many of you have been in the same situation. It has made me realise how stupid I am being by worrying over this. Some of the posts gave great advice and I have taken on board everything you have said. Some were just strange sh****ng like a drunken monkey I don't think is the way to go 😉

I am going to distance myself from her slowly, until it's just the odd phone call, I believe in protecting my feelings at all costs, and the pain of telling her how I feel is not worth it.

Once again thanks for making me laugh and see the funny side of all this! 🙂🙂

Originally posted by sangfroid
Well she has recently split up with her boyfriend, I have had to endure weeks of how wonderful this guy is, then days of how much she hates him, and why can't she just find a guy who treats her well and loves her for who she is, HOW ABOUT ME!!!???

The thing is, I know deep down what her reaction will be if I tell her my feelings. I am not so naive as to ...[text shortened]... worth it.

Once again thanks for making me laugh and see the funny side of all this! 🙂🙂

Just kiss her and see what happens....you never know.

Originally posted by sangfroid
Well she has recently split up with her boyfriend

And for me that would be the best (should I say perfect?) reason not to speed things up with her. I don't think you'll want to be the rebound guy.

Originally posted by sangfroid
I believe in protecting my feelings at all costs, and the pain of telling her how I feel is not worth it.

And just to contradict myself.
Be brave. Courage is not the absence of fear, but dealing with it.
Love hurts when is just one-sided but it can make you grow a lot too. And as far as I know life is all about growing up.

Originally posted by sangfroid
Well she has recently split up with her boyfriend ...

i'm sorry to say this, but adam is right, all you're going to be is a rebound. but there're examples where people built happy relationships, starting off this way. i've known a few couples like that too ... so, my advice still stands, tell her. you've got nothing to loose, seeing that you want to distance yourself from her anyway, but so much to gain if she feels something more than just 'friendship' ...

and yip, you're right, we tend to be blind like a bat when in love and read quite a lot more into simple things - we all been there. and the best thing you can do here is just to trust what you feel, don't let yourself doubt anything - doubt kills and then invites regret later on to finish you off.

Originally posted by sangfroid
Well she has recently split up with her boyfriend, I have had to endure weeks of how wonderful this guy is, then days of how much she hates him, and why can't she just find a guy who treats her well and loves her for who she is, HOW ABOUT ME!!!???

The thing is, I know deep down what her reaction will be if I tell her my feelings. I am not so naive as to ...[text shortened]... worth it.

Once again thanks for making me laugh and see the funny side of all this! 🙂🙂

I'm not the one asking for advice - drunken monkey is the way to go. Plus it was funny. 😀

Originally posted by ChaosChild
doubt kills and then invites regret later on to finish you off.

So true.

Originally posted by sangfroid
... I believe in protecting my feelings at all costs, and the pain of telling her how I feel is not worth it ...

and another thought, this time about what i feel about these situations - i'd rather go through all the pain and hurt all over again just for an odd chance of feeling loved, wanted, of being alive.

they say that we all are going to die some time, but only a few of us will live. think about that ...

Originally posted by slappy115
That's not entirely true. Some girls know about cars and ultimate fighting and they won't tell you about what they wasted their money on. Oh course, you have a better chance of seeing God then having them sleep with you since they prefer "the company of other women".

That's not true either.

Originally posted by SJ247
That's not true either.

Long time, no see... 🙂

Originally posted by adam warlock
Long time, no see... 🙂

Cello.

Originally posted by SJ247
Cello.

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