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Originally posted by Dutch DefenseDONT GET STUCK IN THE FRIEND ZONE!!! if she talks about other boys lose her, if you find yourself "hangin out" with her and 5 other girls than lose her, and this sound weird but you have to not like her... dont give her the time of day(dont be rude!)... relationships are like yin/yang, if you want them then they dont want you, and if you dont want them they will go crazy about you... good luck
she's one of my friends
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16 Nov 07
Originally posted by Dutch DefenseRight, well young man, one thing that I am certain you shouldn't do is become obsessed with them, don't put them such a high pedestal that you can't reach them, don't pin all your hopes on them saying yes; I've done that before and it kills if they say no. 🙁
This thread wouldn't be here if I had, so the answer is no.
I guess the best way to avoid that is to simply get it over with and ask them. 😕
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16 Nov 07
Originally posted by umbaPlaying hard to get, I don't think would get him very far at his age, but sure, don't be needy or clingy for sure...
DONT GET STUCK IN THE FRIEND ZONE!!! if she talks about other boys lose her, if you find yourself "hangin out" with her and 5 other girls than lose her, and this sound weird but you have to not like her... dont give her the time of day(dont be rude!)... relationships are like yin/yang, if you want them then they dont want you, and if you dont want them they will go crazy about you... good luck
16 Nov 07
Originally posted by Bad wolfexcellent advice, you should write a book.
Playing hard to get, I don't think would get him very far at his age, but sure, don't be needy or clingy for sure...
no, here's the best advice you will get out of this:
you need to approach the situation and handle it as yourself, no script we can write will cut it.
you're her friend, you know what she likes, you know how to talk to her. she won't be on no-speaking terms with you if she says no, so don't let that hold you back.
Just don't make a decision you'll regret later.
16 Nov 07
Here's the thing:
I know exactly what to say, but I'm worried that she'll think it's kinda akward and say no.
On the other hand, she might take it well and say yes. I can imagine some things we'll do if she were to say yes, however I know for a fact that the first date is the hardest to get.
It feels like I'm in a giant clear ball of thoughts. 😠
16 Nov 07
Originally posted by rubberjaw30as for the script thing, I'm just asking for advise
excellent advice, you should write a book.
no, here's the best advice you will get out of this:
you need to approach the situation and handle it as yourself, no script we can write will cut it.
you're her friend, you know what she likes, you know how to talk to her. she won't be on no-speaking terms with you if she says no, so don't let that hold you back.
Just don't make a decision you'll regret later.
16 Nov 07
Originally posted by Dutch Defenseyou need no advice, you need to make a decision.
as for the script thing, I'm just asking for advise
you already have the words in your head, you just need to know whether or not its safe to say them.
you have a clear-cut choice: you can try to figure out all of those thoughts that you mentioned, or you can just enjoy life and go through with it without fear of consequenses. and that's your choice. I can't make it for you.
16 Nov 07
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Originally posted by umbaplaying hard to get only works for females the trick for a male is to show that he was thinking about her(the future girlfriend). There is many ways to do this the easiest one is to pick flowers do not buy them as the girl thinks that for every flower you picked you were thinking of her but when you buy flowers she thinks that you took about 15 minutes out of your day (which you did) because you didn't have time and were thinking about other things besides her(which you weren't) plus when you buy them it makes it seem obligatory.
DONT GET STUCK IN THE FRIEND ZONE!!! if she talks about other boys lose her, if you find yourself "hangin out" with her and 5 other girls than lose her, and this sound weird but you have to not like her... dont give her the time of day(dont be rude!)... relationships are like yin/yang, if you want them then they dont want you, and if you dont want them they will go crazy about you... good luck
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16 Nov 07
Originally posted by Dutch DefenseI think there is little you can do to not make it awkward, regardless of how you approach it.
Here's the thing:
I know exactly what to say, but I'm worried that she'll think it's kinda akward and say no.
On the other hand, she might take it well and say yes. I can imagine some things we'll do if she were to say yes, however I know for a fact that the first date is the hardest to get.
It feels like I'm in a giant clear ball of thoughts. 😠
16 Nov 07
Originally posted by Dutch DefenseI have come up with a solution that only somebody of my calibre could have conceived.
Here's the thing:
I know exactly what to say, but I'm worried that she'll think it's kinda akward and say no.
On the other hand, she might take it well and say yes. I can imagine some things we'll do if she were to say yes, however I know for a fact that the first date is the hardest to get.
It feels like I'm in a giant clear ball of thoughts. 😠
Why not ask her out on a secret date, she will think it is just hanging out like normal but you will know it is actually a date. That way, she wont feel uncomfortable about it, and is less likely to say no to coming, whereas you can treat it as a real date and act the way you were planning to act if she really knew.
At the end of the night, reveal to her that you had actually planned it as a date and see how she reacts - girls love surprises and they love being taken out places. She should fall streight into your arms.
What do you think? Is it not just the greatest plan ever.