22 May 05
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In my younger years... I was dumped by my beautiful girlfriend. :'(
Okay, so life goes on... we all have to get over our wounds. However, I came up with this brilliant idea! 😵 I would pick a very ugly girl for my next girlfriend!!! Heh, surely I would never have to face the torment of being DUMPED again! 🙂
Sooo, I matched up with a real ugly (and boy was she ever UGLY!) girlfriend... <sigh> The upside was that I thought I'd never have to feel the pain again of being rejected. The downside was that she was SO UGLY that when I took her out people would holler and scream! Yeah, it was embarrasing and I nearly came to blows defending her honor! But I stuck with her anyways and in my eyes she was the most beautiful thing on the planet! 😵
Well, you can imagine what it did to me when I found out that she had sex with her boss on a golf outing! <GASP!> (guess they did it in the bushes). <GROAN>
So what did I learn? I learned that you can never judge a person by what they look like... AND that you should never compromise your values for a quick means to satisfy your ego.
22 May 05
Originally posted by arrakisI hesitated a long time on my current girlfriend.
In my younger years... I was dumped by my beautiful girlfriend. :'(
Okay, so life goes on... we all have to get over our wounds. However, I came up with this brilliant idea! 😵 I would pick a very ugly girl for my next girlfriend!!! Heh, surely I would never have to face the torment of being DUMPED again! 🙂
Sooo, I matched up with a real ugly (and ...[text shortened]... . AND that you should never compromise your values for a quick means to satisfy your ego.
She wanted me, but she just was not very good looking. We've been together 1.5 years, through (very) thick and thin. She looks much better now, I think. Maybe it's just my emotions controlling my eyes. Anyway, now she is thinking that she doesn't want me anymore. I understand how someone can not know what they have until it's gone. I just hope she realizes that before walking away.
22 May 05
Originally posted by CoconutI hate to say this, but I know from experience... women ALWAYS develop a relationship with another man BEFORE they leave their mate! Yeah, some women may blast me in here and say that I'm prejudice against women or something. I don't care what they say and neither should any other man who reads this.
I hesitated a long time on my current girlfriend.
She wanted me, but she just was not very good looking. We've been together 1.5 years, through (very) thick and thin. She looks much better now, I think. Maybe it's just my emotions controlling my eyes. Anyway, now she is thinking that she doesn't want me anymore. I understand how someone can not know what they have until it's gone. I just hope she realizes that before walking away.
Men need to know the truth about relationships they are in.
But to get to your immediate problem: You still have the chance to win her back. I know this to be true because she hasn't left you yet. So, if you really think she's a prize, then make it your number 1 priority to do just that.
Besides, as a male, you MUST squash the other jerk who is trying to steal her from you. Get my point?
22 May 05
Originally posted by arrakisthanks arrakis.
But to get to your immediate problem: You still have the chance to win her back. I know this to be true because she hasn't left you yet. So, if you really think she's a prize, then make it your number 1 priority to do just that.
I know there is a chance, and if I'm right (I always am) she'll be missing me by the end of the weekend. Maybe Tuesday. We've been through this before. There is just nothing I can do right now. She needs her time, and me jumping in there with 28 flowers and a new car won't help a thing.
I don't know if it's someone specific, or she just wants to be "avaliable" to a few guys. Anyway, my wrath can get pretty bad, so humanity better hope that she doesn't get with anyone else soon.
22 May 05
Originally posted by arrakisI object to that ALWAYS. If she leaves you for a specific other guy-yes. (Although I actually know an exception where a friend of mine said she'd wait til she'd dumped her current bf... but that's an not the way it usually goes).
I hate to say this, but I know from experience... women ALWAYS develop a relationship with another man BEFORE they leave their mate! Yeah, some women may blast me in here and say that I'm prejudice against women or something. I don't care what they say and neither should any other man who reads this.
Men need to know the truth about relationships they are in.
BUT... if she just dumps you-no. That's one possible reason, and obviously statements like "I need some time." and "It just doesn't feel right." are not truly the reason for a breakup.
All I'm saying is that if she leaves you, there could be plenty of reasons. You could have poor personal hygiene. You might have a fetish that totally turns her off. You might... well, just get on her nerves no matter what you do and drive her crazy (Yes, that is a reason, trust me... and there's nothing you can do about it. I had that with one guy... I wasn't even dating him so I hope it wasn't too hard on him when he asked me out and I said no, but still... that's what a woman means when she says "It just doesn't fel right."😉
So... in my opinion, there are 2 possibilities why a woman will leave you without you doing anything (like cheating on her etc):
1. Another guy
2. yourself. Believe me, the statement "It's not you, it's me, but I think... blablabla *dump* blabla" is the biggest lie ever told. Of course it's you, there's just nothing you can do about it. The bright side: Not all women like the same things in men. Example: One will dump you because she thinks your long hair is repulsive... and another will hook up with you because she thinks long hair is sexy.
So, arrakis.... can you agree with that too?
23 May 05
Originally posted by elvendreamgirlAll my female friends encourage me to be more confident in creating relationships but will any of them consider me? Will they boot? Some of my closer female friends are women who turned me down, and then grew to like me as a friend because I was happy to be a friend to them and not need the romantic or sexual side of things to be part of it. I've even fixed up girls I liked with my friends because I thought it would make them happy, to remain by their sides when things go poo-shaped and they need the support. They even tell me I'm good looking, one even said I was the best looking bloke she'd ever seen. So what is it about me that prevents girls from wanting me as a partner? It's nothing new, I've had 12 years of nothing, and I mean nothing, to come to terms with it and to become stronger inside, to get to like myself without needing anybody else to, and lots of other things too which if I'm being honest are worth having, but I still get lonely and try to understand why. It's a good job this isn't a dating site otherwise my rating would be 10.
Anyway, on behalf of good women everywhere, I offer you all my apologies for the treatment you received from the muppeted women.
So even good women hurt us sometimes.