@Suzianne

Originally posted by lemon lime
If the only way you know how to deal with a pm you don't like is to make it public, then you are a problem.

The only "problem" I pose is to people who want to abuse the message facility by sending marerial that even some of their admirers describe as "humiliating". Their "problem", in this regard, is easily avoided or solved. You'd have known this you'd read the thread.

Originally posted by FMF
The only "problem" I pose is to people who want to abuse the message facility by sending marerial that even some of their admirers describe as "humiliating". Their "problem", in this regard, is easily avoided or solved.

You certainly don't pose a problem for me. And I didn't wait to see if you would be a problem, because I put you in my ignore list a long time ago.

Originally posted by lemon lime
You certainly don't pose a problem for me. And I didn't wait to see if you would be a problem, because I put you in my ignore list a long time ago.

Well me not sending you messages or you not sending me messages certainly is no problem. So you STILL can't think of any actual problem in this situation despite you bringing it up. You even mentioned "problems", plural. What problems are there that you think anyone has here? You should just say.

Originally posted by lemon lime
And I didn't wait to see if you would be a problem, because I put you in my ignore list a long time ago.

What kind of problem did you imagine there might be that you decided not to wait to see if it would happen?

Originally posted by FMF
What kind of problem did you imagine there might be that you decided not to wait to see if it would happen?

The kind of problem being discussed here.

Originally posted by lemon lime
The kind of problem being discussed here.

Well, well, I'm sure that your decision to block me er... preemptively... is evidence of something or other. And irrefutable evidence, to boot. 😉

FMF: What kind of problem did you imagine there might be that you decided not to wait to see if it would happen?

Originally posted by lemon lime
The kind of problem being discussed here.

This reminds me of robbie carrobie earlier on another related thread [Thread 171074]. He still remembers the pleasant and civil messages with which we shared some lo-fi home made music we'd each made and he still remembers how I helped you track down some folk music he was interested in, and he'd stated pretty clearly that he could not remember any "unsavoury correspondence" between us of any kind ~ nor at any time in the past.

And yet he, regardless of all that, for the sake of the completely integrity-free stance he wanted to take on that thread, saw fit to say [of me] "he's been blocked since I cannot remember when. Corresponding with FMF in public is hazardous enough, in private is just downright asking for it as you have found out to your chagrin".

Originally posted by lemon lime
You certainly don't pose a problem for me. And I didn't wait to see if you would be a problem, because I put you in my ignore list a long time ago.

Do you think I might have chosen to send you a message like the one Suzianne chose to send to me?

Originally posted by FMF
Well, well, I'm sure that your decision to block me er... preemptively... is evidence of something or other. And irrefutable evidence, to boot. 😉

My decision to block you isn't evidence, you provided evidence confirming my decision.Taking a private message and making it public knowledge is evidence that blocking you was the right decision.

Originally posted by lemon lime
My decision to block you isn't evidence, you provided evidence confirming my decision.Taking a private message and making it public knowledge is evidence that blocking you was the right decision.

But how does you blocking me prevent me from sharing any laughably abusive and threatening messages that you might send to me (which is what I did with Suzianne's message]?

How does you blocking me prevent me from sharing stupid messages you wrote? I don't think you've thought through what your blocking me means.

It's as if you haven't read the thread.

Suzianne sent me a silly, deluded message that abused the message facility which she insists was OK because it was apparently "sensitive". I didn't send any silly messages to her. Don't you get what all this is about? Read the thread.

Originally posted by FMF
But how does you blocking me prevent me from sharing any laughably abusive and threatening messages that you sent to me (which is what I did with Suzianne's message]? How does you blocking me prevent me from sharing stupid messages you wrote? I don't think you've thought through what your blocking me means. It's as if you haven't read the thread. Suzianne sent ...[text shortened]... I didn't send any silly messages to her. Don't you get what all this is about? Read the thread.

Suzianne sent me a silly message that abused the message facility.

So what? You abused the message facility by publicising a private message.
The remedy provided by this site is to block a user from sending private (abusive) messages. Have you done this, or are you hoping to get another *abusive* private message from her?

Originally posted by lemon lime
So what? You abused the message facility by publicising a private message.
The remedy provided by this site is to block a user from sending private (abusive) messages. Have you done this, or are you hoping to get another *abusive* private message from her?

Haven't you read the thread? All these points have been addressed already. [1] I had no obligation to keep such a message - or such behaviour - secret. [2] I didn't want to block her - I am happy to receive decent, non-abusive, non-threatening messages from her, and do not want to close that door. [3] I didn't want to report her to the web site because (a) that might have resulted in a ban for her which I didn't (and still don't) want to see, and (b) it certainly would have resulted in her behaviour being hushed up.

Why would she send me another message like that when she now knows what will happen? And why would I want her to?

Originally posted by lemon lime
You abused the message facility by publicising a private message.

I don't think I did. Suzianne ignored this note from the web site: "Please refrain from sending any messages that may be considered abusive by the recipient."

[Note that it stipulates what I as the recipient consider to be abusive and not what the sender considers to be abusive.]

Meanwhile, there is no note from the web site saying "messages sent using this facility are secret and must be kept confidential regardless of their intent and content."

If there is something somewhere on the web site that says that, tell me where it is.

Originally posted by lemon lime
Why should other people's opinions prevent me from raising points?

Why should your opinion that messages are private influence others?

Originally posted by lemon lime
There's a reason why [b]private messages are understood to be private. I don't know why either one of you haven't put the other in their ignore list, especially since this same problem has come up before.[/b]

But what are private messages?

Please explain .. you seem to be knowledgeable on the subject.

And do you wear tank tops?