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@very-rusty saidIt was just an example, put something else of your choice in there you would.
If you played with bears when they were cubs would you have any fear? 🙂
I have respect for them, don't confuse that part.
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08 Sep 23
@mike69 saidWhen you grow up in the country, there is very little if anything most would fear. One learns to be respectful, but no reason to fear anything.
It was just an example, put something else of your choice in there you would.
I remember as a very young boy being afraid of the dark. My father told me no reason to be afraid of the dark. It is what is in the dark you have to be careful, not fearful of.
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@drewnogal saidIn my opinion they made the right choice at only 2% below asking. A hidden problem or two and that disappears. He needs a more motivated seller.
Sorry, meant that the friend backed out of the sale which was had an offer of 2.06% below his asking price. He should have been overjoyed as he’d had plans to spend part of the cash on an RV and travel while also being on a list for a retirement pensioners bungalow so he’d have had a new rented home in addition.
@rookie54 saidJust about what someone may want to do but something holds them back? I’d really like to go wild camping with my dog. She’d keep me safe but I’m thinking, I’m a woman, women don’t do that, it’s a man thing?
is this about fear of a real estate event, or is it about fear in general?
buying or selling houses, or land, can be stressful
even buying or selling cars, trucks, boats, and motorcycles
this is a normal reaction
when it comes to fear in general, i would be fearful of having no fear
it's the primal survival reaction
considering my past, if i had had no fear, i would not be amongst the living, i fear
08 Sep 23
@mike69 saidHe now says he’ll only sell it for the asking price and I understand that buyers often ask for a further cut once a survey throws up a slight defect or issue. But I do wonder if he’s got cold feet for some other reason?
In my opinion they made the right choice at only 2% below asking. A hidden problem or two and that disappears. He needs a more motivated seller.
08 Sep 23
@drewnogal saidUnknown to you he may possibly have monetary issues.
He now says he’ll only sell it for the asking price and I understand that buyers often ask for a further cut once a survey throws up a slight defect or issue. But I do wonder if he’s got cold feet for some other reason?
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@drewnogal saidThen that isn’t the home for him, never get attached. I’m talking about issues like electrical, slab, plumbing and on. Without knowing this person and their situation you’re the best person to figure that one out. What did they say when you asked?
He now says he’ll only sell it for the asking price and I understand that buyers often ask for a further cut once a survey throws up a slight defect or issue. But I do wonder if he’s got cold feet for some other reason?
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@very-rusty saidAs humans, we are hard wired to experience fear. It's a survival instinct. Helps us to be extra vigilant and avoid things that might hurt us. Excessive fear of course is not a good thing, but a healthy fear of lions or heights is invariably in our own best interest. People void of fear are more likely to be risk takers and eventually come a cropper. (Eaten by a lion while falling off a ladder).
When you grow up in the country, there is very little if anything most would fear. One learns to be respectful, but no reason to fear anything.
I remember as a very young boy being afraid of the dark. My father told me no reason to be afraid of the dark. It is what is in the dark you have to be careful, not fearful of.
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@ghost-of-a-duke saidHey you want to experience fear that is entirely up to you or those who may.
As humans, we are hard wired to experience fear. It's a survival instinct. Helps us to be extra vigilant and avoid things that might hurt us. Excessive fear of course is not a good thing, but a healthy fear of lions or heights is invariably in our own best interest. People void of fear are more likely to be risk takers and eventually come a cropper. (Eaten by a lion while falling off a ladder).
Never climb a ladder with a lion waiting for you unless you plan on taking a lunch with you or you will become lunch. 🙂 😛 Oh yea, keep in mind the lion can climb that same ladder probably faster than you!
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@ghost-of-a-duke saidWelcome back to the normal world!
Selling is no fun. - We completed on our sale 2 days ago. Only took us 6 months. 🙁
Did the “void” continue to create selling issues?
@Drewnogal said:
“If you had no fear, what would you do?”
I’d probably be dead tbh.
I’ve had several motorcycles in my life; in my younger years I nearly killed myself on them a couple of times due to having little fear, as is the case with most teenage lads. Had the fear gene not kicked in in late teens, I doubt I would be alive.
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If you had no fear, what would you do?
I would think twice and thrice about some things that I might be inclined to do [if I had no fear] because fear is a healthy and instructive emotion that inhibits us from doing reckless and dangerous things.
It is, more often than not, fear that lies at the very core of commonsensical caution in the face of dilemmas about whether to engage in risky acts.
09 Sep 23
@ghost-of-a-duke saidExcessive fear of course is not a good thing
As humans, we are hard wired to experience fear. It's a survival instinct. Helps us to be extra vigilant and avoid things that might hurt us. Excessive fear of course is not a good thing, but a healthy fear of lions or heights is invariably in our own best interest. People void of fear are more likely to be risk takers and eventually come a cropper. (Eaten by a lion while falling off a ladder).
It's not clear what "excessive" means here.
Complete and utter fear of a likely outcome is clearly wise in the face of immediate existential /mortal danger: it's a valuable - and perhaps instinctive - signal.
Fear in excess of what a hazard perhaps warrants - as in an overabundance of caution - is not unhealthy, in and of itself.
If, however, "excessive" means the fear is debilitating and precludes rational countermeasures, then clearly that is not in the fearful person's interests.
09 Sep 23
@very-rusty saidThere is awareness of what might happen, the tingle up the back of your neck, and then there is the paralyzing unreasoning terror that keeps one from various social interactions.
I don't see how having fear helps you any at all.
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At one time I had the latter, life stultifying PTSD, but learning how to defend myself has changed the fear I do feel now from the latter to the former.
09 Sep 23
@mike69 saidHis plan of selling his house and renting a bungalow makes perfect sense. But his additional plan of buying an RV to tour Europe troubles me as he has a physical disability. I don’t want to dash his hopes but worry how he’d cope with no family / friends around.
Then that isn’t the home for him, never get attached. I’m talking about issues like electrical, slab, plumbing and on. Without knowing this person and their situation you’re the best person to figure that one out. What did they say when you asked?