09 Sep 23
@drewnogal saidI’m very sorry to hear that, maybe you could suggest renting one first and going on a trip with family or friends to see how it goes and possible issues.
His plan of selling his house and renting a bungalow makes perfect sense. But his additional plan of buying an RV to tour Europe troubles me as he has a physical disability. I don’t want to dash his hopes but worry how he’d cope with no family / friends around.
@suzianne saidSounds a good solution! I met up with old school friends recently. One looked in great shape, I asked her what she did to keep fit, turned out she’d started karate at 50 and had reached a black belt. She’s almost 68 now and is a karate coach for kids. She looks amazing!
There is awareness of what might happen, the tingle up the back of your neck, and then there is the paralyzing unreasoning terror that keeps one from various social interactions.
At one time I had the latter, life stultifying PTSD, but learning how to defend myself has changed the fear I do feel now from the latter to the former.
@divegeester saidThanks. The void caused long delays, but miraculously the original buyer didn't walk away. (First time buyer so no chain).
Welcome back to the normal world!
Did the “void” continue to create selling issues?
We're now in a lovely little rental property, not far from the place we sold, waiting for the housing market to slump.
@drewnogal saidNice!
Sounds a good solution! I met up with old school friends recently. One looked in great shape, I asked her what she did to keep fit, turned out she’d started karate at 50 and had reached a black belt. She’s almost 68 now and is a karate coach for kids. She looks amazing!
If taken seriously it has a way of changing lives, for sure. The confidence that comes with it is priceless.
@very-rusty saidHave you ever wrestled with a lesbian?
Not an issue as a young man I use to wrestle with the cubs, until mama come along then got my butt out of there. 🙂
-VR
09 Sep 23
@suzianne saidThat tingle in back of you neck is a warning something is not quite right, no reason for fear, just letting you know to be cautious.
There is awareness of what might happen, the tingle up the back of your neck, and then there is the paralyzing unreasoning terror that keeps one from various social interactions.
At one time I had the latter, life stultifying PTSD, but learning how to defend myself has changed the fear I do feel now from the latter to the former.
The only thing to fear as I've said is "fear it self" paralyzes some. Silly kids that run around on motor bikes are just not knowledgeable enough to know the dangers is all. Nothing to do with "Fear"!
-VR
@very-rusty saidFear is a natural emotion that keeps us safe. It's something we 'all' experience at some level. Even Canadians.
That tingle in back of you neck is a warning something is not quite right, no reason for fear, just letting you know to be cautious.
The only thing to fear as I've said is "fear it self" paralyzes some. Silly kids that run around on motor bikes are just not knowledgeable enough to know the dangers is all. Nothing to do with "Fear"!
-VR
Edit: I think the confusion here is that you are associating the term 'fear' with someone who is wimpy or weak, with an extreme fear of spiders etc. In reality 'fear' is a natural biological response that acts like an alert system to danger. A little fear can be a good/positive thing, as long as it is properly managed.
09 Sep 23
@the-gravedigger saidThat is a quite rude question to ask t-g.
Have you ever wrestled with a lesbian?
-VR
09 Sep 23
@ghost-of-a-duke saidLets put it this was last time I felt fear was of the dark as a little boy.
Fear is a natural emotion that keeps us safe. It's something we 'all' experience at some level. Even Canadians.
Edit: I think the confusion here is that you are associating the term 'fear' with someone who is wimpy or weak, with an extreme fear of spiders etc. In reality 'fear' is a natural biological response that acts like an alert system to danger. A little fear can be a good/positive thing, as long as it is properly managed.
I have no confusion on what fear is, I just don't have it. Trying to analyze it isn't going to help you or any of the others who feel fear.
-VR
@very-rusty saidSay, for example, you encountered a lion on the way to the coffee shop. You 'would' experience fear. It is not something you would have any control over. It would be a natural biological response. Your heart would pound, your pulse rate increase etc. Fear would make you physically aware of the danger and the need to act quickly. - That's the very reason fear in humans exists. It is hard wired into all of us.
Lets put it this was last time I felt fear was of the dark as a little boy.
I have no confusion on what fear is, I just don't have it. Trying to analyze it isn't going to help you or any of the others who feel fear.
-VR
@ghost-of-a-duke saidMy first instinct would be to remain calm and try to keep others that way. Figure a way out of the situation.
Say, for example, you encountered a lion on the way to the coffee shop. You 'would' experience fear. It is not something you would have any control over. It would be a natural biological response. Your heart would pound, your pulse rate increase etc. Fear would make you physically aware of the danger and the need to act quickly. - That's the very reason fear in humans exists. It is hard wired into all of us.
Actually you would experience fear Ghost, and the lion would smell the fear coming from you.
Caution don't run don't turn back away slowly.
What to do if you come in contact with a lion?
Should you keep eye contact with a lion?
What to do: Make direct eye contact, and don't break it. Back very slowly away. Never turn your back, never run. Lions will often do one or two mock charges before a full-on attack, running towards you but suddenly stopping a few paces away Jul
-VR
@very-rusty saidMix some truth with a little bs and you think you came out with a winner. What would you have to remain calm from without fear in order for survival and you’re with your family and nowhere to take cover.
My first instinct would be to remain calm and try to keep others that way. Figure a way out of the situation.
Actually you would experience fear Ghost, and the lion would smell the fear coming from you.
Caution don't run don't turn back away slowly.
What to do if you come in contact with a lion?
Should you keep eye contact with a lion?
What to do: Make direct ey ...[text shortened]... arges before a full-on attack, running towards you but suddenly stopping a few paces away Jul
-VR