Originally posted by kirksey957That's the thing, I don't feel like it's my place to say anything seeing as the dude and I are not that close. But he has NO idea how much of a slag she is when EVERYBODY else around knows it and knows it well.
Lots of people have opinions about their friends and who they date, fall in love with , and marry. There is nothing in it for you to tell him how you feel about her. Everybody has a right to their own mistakes and who am I to deprive one of learning from their mistakes? So what I would do is leave it alone.
What do some of the rest of you think?
Poor guy. Guess he's on his own. Maybe if I put some penacilin in his mailbox he'll start to wonder...
Originally posted by darvlayA burning uretha is a powerful motivator.
That's the thing, I don't feel like it's my place to say anything seeing as the dude and I are not that close. But he has NO idea how much of a slag she is when EVERYBODY else around knows it and knows it well.
Poor guy. Guess he's on his own. Maybe if I put some penacilin in his mailbox he'll start to wonder...
What's wrong with sleeping around? Well disease of course, as you've mentioned, but you shouldn't put someone down for making the choice to play and take the risks.
You might want to discreetly inform your friend that she's been promiscuous and they should get tested and use protection without being judgemental about it.
Originally posted by AThousandYoungBut that would make me sound like a square... and God knows we can't have that happening.
You might want to discreetly inform your friend that she's been promiscuous and they should get tested and use protection without being judgemental about it.
OK, class , we're sort of getting away from the lesson plan. Let me ask you this. List the traits you feel most attract you to a partner. Things like "similar interests, good personality, attractive, smart, athletic, puts up with me, daddy's got money (ok, that one's a joke), etc."
Originally posted by kirksey957She is smart, funny, caring, loves unconditionally, loves kids either has some already or wants to have some. Very outgoing, ambitious, down to earth but a dreamer as well. Honest, god fearing, beautiful, enjoys intelligent conversations. Accepting of the fact that I am poor. Accepting of the fact that i have skeletons in my closet. Someone who is ready to be loved.
OK, class , we're sort of getting away from the lesson plan. Let me ask you this. List the traits you feel most attract you to a partner. Things like "similar interests, good personality, attractive, smart, athletic, puts up with me, daddy's got money (ok, that one's a joke), etc."
I tried to keep the list small but these are some of the things I am looking for in a women.
Thanks Shav for your posts I got a kick out of them. I dont seem to have a problem with the first steps in meeting someone, my problem lies in approaching the subject of commitment and marriage. For some reason whenever I bring up the subject in the past I have driven away my want to be bride. I am good enough to sleep with but not good enough to marry, this is not the way I feel about myself but just an observation of past events. How do I know when it is the right time to approach the subject of marriage.
Originally posted by huntingbear
pcaspian,
I want to believe that, somehow, you feel this confrontation will be a benefit to kirksey957, and to readers of this thread. If you object to kirksey957's teachings (I myself often do), then please remember that there are appropriate places, times, and especially manners in which to object. There are also inappropriate manners, times, and places in which to object.
your brother,
Larry
Alas Larry, as you should know by now Kirk has requested that I not PM him, as such my opinions on his 'preaching' will remain public.
Originally posted by kirksey957Whimsical
OK, class , we're sort of getting away from the lesson plan. Let me ask you this. List the traits you feel most attract you to a partner. Things like "similar interests, good personality, attractive, smart, athletic, puts up with me, daddy's got money (ok, that one's a joke), etc."
Imaginative
Loyal
Lovely
Gratious
Outgoing
Down to earth
Obedient
Wealthy
Not judgemental
One of the things I suggest to couples thinking about marriage is to go find a good therapist trained in working with couples and couples' issues and devote 6 months to looking at who you are individually and who you are as a couple. You're gonna spend that much one the wedding dress anyway. Now if one member of the couple says "no", this is telling about how much mutuality there will be with problem solving down the road. Ministers who don't require some type of process like this are really doing couples a disservice. They get seduced by "Oh, we know what we want because we're in love." Yea, verily, the road to awefully wedded whatever.
Originally posted by AThousandYoungI'll be honest with you dude, what I was saying was something called a joke. I'm not THAT superficial...
[b]But that would make me sound like a square... and God knows we can't have that happening.
LOL. You base the way you treat people and the advice you give people on how cool it will make you look? That's sad.
Says who? That's a great reason for putting someone down...
Why?[/b]
Originally posted by kirksey957LOL! This is also a joke, right?
One of the things I suggest to couples thinking about marriage is to go find a good therapist trained in working with couples and couples' issues and devote 6 months to looking at who you are individually and who you are as a couple.