Parenting

@fmf said
Some may be better at it than others, but there's no one way to do it. What are the key attributes, skills and techniques for parenting?

I'd say you can't be a successful parent without a fair bit of honest self-criticism and the resulting, necessary flexibility attendant thereto.

@rajk999 said
I think it commonsense, and no expert advice unless you have a special case child. Most adults know what makes a successful adult, so all the parent has to do is to encourage those qualities in the kids at the earliest age. Start with health. Adults say your health is your wealth, but most parents fail to encourage healthy habits in kids. Then there is education.

So - health, education etc

@ponderable said
Or as they say (and I think this really a great quote): You can parent as you want to the kids will just do as you do 😉

@relentless-red said
You make them food? No wonder they grow up soft.

@trev33 said
Until they're old enough to reach the knob for the oven and the bottom shelf of the fridge. Then they can cook their own damn fish fingers.

@rajk999 said
You buy fish fingers? Let them catch their own fish 😀

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@rajk999 said
You buy fish fingers? Let them catch their own fish 😀

When I was a kid we were in and out of each others houses and there was a culture of a community of parents. You'd even get parented by random adults away from the immediate vicinity of your house. I remember being chased off a building site by a guy saying he knew where we lived, being taken to football by somebody else's dad...

Adults saw other adults in their community parenting and demonstrating skills and they also got respite through neighbours and other adults taking over for a while.

I think social mobility has changed that massively. The offspring of a lot of the more successful families move away from the area, leaving a community of people descended from more of the families who struggled. I remember being struck by the fact that social services paying family support workers to go into more isolated communities to offer respite and show parenting skills, was essentially using money to make people who had moved out return to these roles.

In the 1990s in Toxteth you used to find big old houses with elderly occupants who were struggling to heat the place, yet in relatively new communities like Speke that were created to house young families you found struggling young parents geographically isolated from experienced older people. The elderly suffered more mental health problems through isolation and financial issues. The isolated young families suffered more mental health issues through lack of respite and access to experienced parents.

I think it's interesting that the single most important variable that determines the outcome in postnatal depression is the size of the social network around you.

@torunn said
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iEIApUNVBKg

I don't know if this is funny, mixed feelings for me, but I know some of you like Monty Python.

@rajk999 said
Parents teach principles which would apply in all situations. the principle is about trust and strangers. Your training and commonsense will help you apply it to all situations in life. A good father will teach his son to respect women and to carry himself about in a decent respectful manner. Good parents do not follow the crowd neither do they adopt society's values. Their values are based on the guidelines in the bible or some other religion.

@duchess64 said
The Bible has examples of one people going to war against another people in order
to (in part) distribute the conquered women among the victorious men.
How does that apply to how men should treat women today?

The Bible has examples about how people did or should treat their slaves.
How does that apply to how people should behave today?

@anitya said
With the Bible you are allowed to pick out the parts you like (it's the literal word of God) and ignore the parts you don't (oh you are misunderstanding - sometimes stuff gets lost in translation) .

It's what makes the Bible so great.

@fmf said
The 'Golden Rule ' type stuff in the NT is a good template for raising children especially when it's augmented by some of the Sermon on the Mount stuff.