Parenting

@fmf said
Some may be better at it than others, but there's no one way to do it. What are the key attributes, skills and techniques for parenting?

I'd say you can't be a successful parent without a fair bit of honest self-criticism and the resulting, necessary flexibility attendant thereto.

Parenting is the most difficult thing most people will ever do.

My mother's advice was this: kids are resilient; there are two cases when you must intervene immediately: the kid stops breathing or the kid does not stop bleeding; pretty much everything else is going to sort itself out.

My wife's a Dr. med. Her advice is: when a kid falls down, gets up and cries, it's going to be ok; when a kid falls down, stays there and does not cry, get it to a hospital immediately.

My advice is: be careful what you say to your kids, because you're going to hear it all come back to you some day.

@moonbus said
Parenting is the most difficult thing most people will ever do.

My mother's advice was this: kids are resilient; there are two cases when you must intervene immediately: the kid stops breathing or the kid does not stop bleeding; pretty much everything else is going to sort itself out.

My wife's a Dr. med. Her advice is: when a kid falls down, gets up and cries, it's goi ...[text shortened]... be careful what you say to your kids, because you're going to hear it all come back to you some day.

I’ve found I’ve “become” my father. 😲

@great-big-stees said
I’ve found I’ve “become” my father. 😲

Both my parents had a lot of common sense which I didn't always recognize at the time.

@torunn said
Both my parents had a lot of common sense which I didn't always recognize at the time.

I had great parents (good cop bad cop) never smacked or really punished just nudged you in the right direction, I adopted the same policy with my sprogletts, they seem fine as do the grandsproggs.

@badradger said
I had great parents (good cop bad cop) never smacked or really punished just nudged you in the right direction, I adopted the same policy with my sprogletts, they seem fine as do the grandsproggs.

The acorn doesn’t fall far from the tree.

@great-big-stees said
The acorn doesn’t fall far from the tree.

People tend to know what works within their family. They get reassured by being reminded that they were like that at that age and it turned out okay. They recognise some things as being a typical family member with ideas of how to be a parent to that person at that stage. One interesting question is to what extent that is specific to their family. A kind of handed down knowledge or expertise about how to parent people with their genes or a typical personality for their family, that may or may not apply if used as a style of parenting for people from a different family background.

@great-big-stees said
I’ve found I’ve “become” my father. 😲

Isn't that ironic when it finally hits you! OMG, I've become my father!

-VR

@very-rusty said
Isn't that ironic when it finally hits you! OMG, I've become my father!

-VR

I heard he was your uncle and brother an hummed duelling banjos all day long.

@badradger said
I heard he was your uncle and brother an hummed duelling banjos all day long.

Yea, yea, but you believe everything you hear mostly especially about me! 😛 🙂

Out in the real world saying things like that could get you put in hospital if you were lucky enough to make it there, so don't try that crap out in public badge! 😛

-VR

@very-rusty said
Yea, yea, but you believe everything you hear mostly especially about me! 😛 🙂

Out in the real world saying things like that could get you put in hospital if you were lucky enough to make it there, so don't try that crap out in public badge! 😛

-VR

rusty having spent 50 years working on building sites worrying about getting thumped for pi$$ taking didnt make my radar, u need to get over yourself.