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Originally posted by domino971Just tell him, life is more fun when you take risks. As long as you don't tell him awkwardly (eg. handing him a note or a text messege or something dumb like that). Just confront him with confidence and let it out.
what should a girl do when she is totally crazy about a guy friend of hers that she has known since she was a baby, and is her ex of about... say, ten years, give or take a couple? and they hang out all the time, but he's a total flirt. and he flirts with every girl. almost. but he does things with her that he doesn't do with other people... so she's reall ...[text shortened]... if he likes her as more than a friend, or only does these things because of their history...
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Originally posted by domino971
what should a girl do when she is totally crazy about a guy friend of hers that she has known since she was a baby, and is her ex of about... say, ten years, give or take a couple? and they hang out all the time, but he's a total flirt. and he flirts with every girl. almost. but he does things with her that he doesn't do with other people... so she's reall ...[text shortened]... if he likes her as more than a friend, or only does these things because of their history...
19 Feb 08
Originally posted by PBE6if i was to go out with him then i would not mind at all kissing or hugging or holding hands or whatever. but what i will not do is go up to one of my best guy friends and just kiss him.
What exactly do you want to do, be his girlfriend? Without getting physical, as I saw you mentioned above? I guess you want him to tell you he loves you, or somesuch. That's probably (and probably should be) a long way off.
To a boy of 16, a relationship with a girl involves physical contact (not sex necessarily, but kissing, hugging, and other int ...[text shortened]... ust remember that you don't have to do anything you don't want to, but neither does he.
19 Feb 08
Originally posted by KnightStalker47have you ever tried to do that? it is absolutely TERRIFYING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Just tell him, life is more fun when you take risks. As long as you don't tell him awkwardly (eg. handing him a note or a text messege or something dumb like that). Just confront him with confidence and let it out.
19 Feb 08
Originally posted by KnightStalker47I am guessing that it's related to the general site problems at the moment (problems with loading pages, getting blank pages or error messages). We had something similar happen a few months ago. But there's hope that things will get better soon: Thread 87659
Ah, everything makes sense now, but why is the post count off? Is there a thread related to this problem?
19 Feb 08
Originally posted by domino971It's only terrifying up to the point where you ask him, then it gets really easy. It's like a good thriller - the tension is all in the build-up. Trust me! I did this once, and she said "I like you too"!. 🙂 She dumped me 5 weeks later 😞 but we're still good friends and we talk all the time.
have you ever tried to do that? it is absolutely TERRIFYING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Go for it, you won't regret it. 🙂
(My advice is to ask him while you're alone doing something innocuous together. Start with the old "Can we talk? I've had something on my mind for awhile I'd like to talk to you about...", then tell him how much you like hanging out with him, and doing stuff with him, and how great he is, then tell him you like him and you hope he likes you too. You could also mention that if he doesn't like you that way, you'd like to stay friends. Then hope for the best!)
20 Feb 08
Originally posted by PBE6i don't do good with tension.
It's only terrifying up to the point where you ask him, then it gets really easy. It's like a good thriller - the tension is all in the build-up. Trust me! I did this once, and she said "I like you too"!. 🙂 She dumped me 5 weeks later 😞 but we're still good friends and we talk all the time.
Go for it, you won't regret it. 🙂
(My advice is to ask him ...[text shortened]... he doesn't like you that way, you'd like to stay friends. Then hope for the best!)
20 Feb 08
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Originally posted by domino971If you don't want to kiss him, there's nothing further to have beyond what you have now. Even the most chaste evangelicals kiss their boyfriends.
as i have said before. i want to communicate. not get physical.
You just want something to giggle with your girlfriends about.
You remind me of this really irritating girl I knew in college. She wanted to be a little chaste girl all her life. I finally stopped answering the phone when she called me because I found her so unpleasant and alien to me. She wasn't terribly popular and none of the guys she liked had any interest in her (I was not one of those guys...she just needed to babble to someone and I was polite enough to pick up the phone when she called me, unlike most other people). She had a friend like yours, was obsessed with him and...
He got a girlfriend and starting having great sex. This girl I knew was crushed. I had respect for the guy she liked. I had and have very little for the girl. What a weird chick.
But she was 19 or so...not 14. It makes more sense coming from someone who still is a kid (you, that is).