19 Feb 08
Originally posted by domino971Kiss him.
so... i got one straight answer. that i should try it...
i'll thank you all for your time, for you caused me much amusement, and withdraw until someone else should decide to pull this up and post upon it. i enjoyed out chat though... now, just to work up the gut to tell that great guy i'm crazy about him...
19 Feb 08
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Originally posted by domino971This is really not a good place to be asking for advice.
you don't know him! you don't get it! if you think that he is like that then you may as well just go away... i don't know about whether or not he hangs out with me in attempt to get 'laid', i for one highly doubt it. but i know that no matter what we are really friends! i'm not 'just a plaything'! i don't hang out with a single guy that would consider me ' y can find some girl that wants to be for all i care! i don't put up with that crud!
There may be some good places on the internet, but this isn't one of them.
Most of the people who answered are just trying to get some kind of cheap thrill.
Take my advice and drop the subject and be very careful who you talk to going forward.
19 Feb 08
Originally posted by domino971You're being ridiculous. No one "breaks up" at 6 years old.
not quite... yes, we are 14. i said about 10 years. we broke up when we were about six, about two years before i moved across the country. actually... we broke up at about the time that we, my family, started actually talking about moving and really getting ready to make the preparations and stuff. and yes we held hands, and we also kissed. not that we rea ...[text shortened]... t love survived. stored away for about 7 years, completely forgotten, but still in exisitence...
19 Feb 08
Hey Domino.. I know it's easy for me to say.. but you've been friends for too long to suddenly start dating and going to the next level. It would be very weird. It doesn't mean that it can't happen of course.. I reckon wait till you're 18 or so.. and if you still feel the same, then go for it. Otherwise, there are plenty more fish in the sea!
I know the mind of a 14yo.. I was there once myself. It's sport, games and girls.. so in regards to you, I know how he'll think.. I won't go into the way I thought coz I'd probably end up in jail. So tread carefully if you do go ahead and "get with" him.. you can always wait a few more years?
19 Feb 08
Originally posted by Red NightYes, I know that this is a stupid place to be asking about boy troubles.
This is really not a good place to be asking for advice.
There may be some good places on the internet, but this isn't one of them.
Most of the people who answered are just trying to get some kind of cheap thrill.
Take my advice and drop the subject and be very careful who you talk to going forward.
But as for them trying to get a kick out of it, well, so am I! I haven't taken anyone's advice yet. Not even my best friend's. But it is SOOOOOOO amusing to see what people say. Just to take a simple, not uncommon situation and put it on a CHESS SITE of all places, it's highly amusing.
19 Feb 08
Originally posted by AussieGgood points... i suppose that a few years or at least some amount of time wouldn't do us damage at all. but we go to a boarding school where my mom and step-dad work. his family is still across the country. so i would like to try and figure this out as i do not yet know if he will be coming back next year.
Hey Domino.. I know it's easy for me to say.. but you've been friends for too long to suddenly start dating and going to the next level. It would be very weird. It doesn't mean that it can't happen of course.. I reckon wait till you're 18 or so.. and if you still feel the same, then go for it. Otherwise, there are plenty more fish in the sea!
I know the ...[text shortened]... refully if you do go ahead and "get with" him.. you can always wait a few more years?
19 Feb 08
Originally posted by irontigranwell then read it and laugh. but if you don't find it amusing or don't want to comment on the actual situation, i suggest, with all due respect, that you use your time doing or reading something else.
because its half funny
havnt read it all..yet 😛
19 Feb 08
Originally posted by domino971What exactly do you want to do, be his girlfriend? Without getting physical, as I saw you mentioned above? I guess you want him to tell you he loves you, or somesuch. That's probably (and probably should be) a long way off.
good points... i suppose that a few years or at least some amount of time wouldn't do us damage at all. but we go to a boarding school where my mom and step-dad work. his family is still across the country. so i would like to try and figure this out as i do not yet know if he will be coming back next year.
To a boy of 16, a relationship with a girl involves physical contact (not sex necessarily, but kissing, hugging, and other intimate gestures...). I can't be sure, but I assume that to a girl of 16, a relationship involves devotion. You can't expect the other person to offer you the same thing you're offering them upfront - otherwise, where's the mutual benefit? In a healthy relationship, the physical contact and devotion flow freely between partners, but it has to develop over time. And the only way to let that kind of thing develop properly is to be honest.
If you want to be boyfriend and girlfriend, then tell him. If you want to do it without being physical, tell him that too. If he accepts, great stuff! If he doesn't, don't be too sad. Just remember that you don't have to do anything you don't want to, but neither does he.