Gratification

@divegeester said
Again… because I’m saying them to your face. “Sir”

You said yours about me, behind my back.
Coward!

Well, you did leave the Chamber of your own volition.

@ghost-of-a-duke said
Part of the trust I put in FMF was in giving him access to my family, via the broadcasts they listened to. This is why he should have asked for my consent before spoonerizing my name on live radio. You may think it silly, but it did cause confusion and embarrassment. It appeared I was on a show that couldn't even get my name right. - Why was it ok for FMF to do that? He says he found it funny. Does that make it ok then?

I had "access" to your family?

@ghost-of-a-duke said
Yikes, caught in a lie. The second message was via RHP which you deleted without replying to. How did you read that last week?

What is this fumbling nonsense?

@fmf said
I had "access" to your family?

Indirectly, yes.

@ghost-of-a-duke said
This is why he should have asked for my consent before spoonerizing my name on live radio. You may think it silly, but it did cause confusion and embarrassment. It appeared I was on a show that couldn't even get my name right.

Why didn't you contact me then?

@fmf said
What is this fumbling nonsense?

I sent one message to you by email and the second was a PM on this site that you deleted without replying to. This is a factual statement and the reason I didn't send you any further messages.

@fmf said
Why didn't you contact me then?

Too late after the event.

@ghost-of-a-duke said
Part of the trust I put in FMF was in giving him access to my family, via the broadcasts they listened to. This is why he should have asked for my consent before spoonerizing my name on live radio. You may think it silly, but it did cause confusion and embarrassment. It appeared I was on a show that couldn't even get my name right. - Why was it ok for FMF to do that? He says he found it funny. Does that make it ok then?

If this had happened to me I would have taken it up with him. Even if he had ignored me and did again I STILL wouldn’t have done what you did.

Ghost, people who are “incapable of anger” as you claim to be, and are “instinctively trusting” as you also claim to be, do not react as you did.

For my part I refer you to my appeal that you publicly apologise to me, (in the GF) for what you said about me in your club, then I promise that I will forgive you and forget the matter completely and never join in with any subsequent exchanges with FMF if my name isn’t mentioned.

I can’t say fairer than that.
We might need to negotiate specifics if you want to.
I’m not messing about.
I’ll leave it with you.

@ghost-of-a-duke said
Why was it ok for FMF to do that? He says he found it funny. Does that make it ok then?

If you didn't find it funny, you should have said. You didn't need to go off and do the most malicious thing you could think of.

@ghost-of-a-duke said
Too late after the event.

No. You said you heard the pseudonym used in show 3 and you contacted the radio station after show 4 having not contacted me about show 3.

@ghost-of-a-duke said
I sent one message to you by email and the second was a PM on this site that you deleted without replying to. This is a factual statement and the reason I didn't send you any further messages.

You didn't contact me about the objection you had to the pseudonym.

@divegeester said

Ghost, people who are “incapable of anger” as you claim to be, and are “instinctively trusting” as you also claim to be, do not react as you did.

If I had been ripe with anger I would have reacted immediately. Surely?

But I did nothing at all, not one thing. I decided to rise above it. Knowing FMF was expecting some kind of reaction, I decided not to give him one. It was only when he did exactly the same thing the following week that I acted. - Hardly the actions of somebody fuelled by anger or vindictiveness. I simply wanted no more of my stories to be included on the show.

@ghost-of-a-duke said
I sent one message to you by email and the second was a PM on this site that you deleted without replying to. This is a factual statement and the reason I didn't send you any further messages.

What abject fabrication is this, all of a sudden, never mentioned once in the last three and a half years? You have brass balls, and no integrity in this matter whatsoever.

@divegeester said
If this had happened to me I would have taken it up with him. Even if he had ignored me and did again I STILL wouldn’t have done what you did.

Ghost, people who are “incapable of anger” as you claim to be, and are “instinctively trusting” as you also claim to be, do not react as you did.

For my part I refer you to my appeal that you publicly apologise to me, (in t ...[text shortened]... might need to negotiate specifics if you want to.
I’m not messing about.
I’ll leave it with you.

Yes, leave it with me.

@ghost-of-a-duke said
If I had been ripe with anger I would have reacted immediately. Surely?But I did nothing at all, not one thing. I decided to rise above it. Knowing FMF was expecting some kind of reaction, I decided not to give him one. It was only when he did exactly the same thing the following week that I acted.

And how did you act? Yes, in a stupendously scorched-earth vindictive way?

In retaliation for what, for goodness sake?