Embarrassing And Awkward Moments

@phil-a-dork said
@divegeester

Saying a black man is black is racist?
So every novel I have read that describes a person's race is racist?

@phil-a-dork said
Saying a black man is black is racist?
So every novel I have read that describes a person's race is racist?

@ghost-of-a-duke said
In fairness old chap you weren't writing a novel but recounting a tale where the man's skin colour brought nothing of value to the narrative. Calling a man black 'isn't' racist in itself but when used in an unnecessary fashion will lead people to ask questions as to the motivation of describing the colour of his skin.

@phil-a-dork said
@divegeester

Saying a black man is black is racist?
So every novel I have read that describes a person's race is racist?

@ghost-of-a-duke said
In fairness old chap you weren't writing a novel but recounting a tale where the man's skin colour brought nothing of value to the narrative. Calling a man black 'isn't' racist in itself but when used in an unnecessary fashion will lead people to ask questions as to the motivation of describing the colour of his skin.

I wonder if Suzianne is going to crop up again and accuse Ghost of a Duke and Relentless Red of joining in the "pissing contest".

@phil-a-dork said
Taken from...

https://blog.nanowrimo.org/post/188519134840/the-dos-of-writing-people-of-color-describe-your

@fmf said
I wonder if Suzianne is going to crop up again and accuse Ghost of a Duke and Relentless Red of joining in the "pissing contest".

@relentless-red said
Maybe it's the ratio of on topic posts to other posts in a thread that had potential to be a good read. Maybe the discussion of the racist posting belongs in a different thread and the posts should just be alerted in this one? It does seem sad when a half decent thread sinks under recurrent themes. It's kind of like the negative posting wins. Maybe a disputes thread for people to quickly shift their argument into?

@Very-Rusty
Does anyone want to share their most embarrassing and awkward moments?

One really awkward moment I once endured happened when I was teaching in London 35 years ago. I was called into the headteacher's office where a man and his wife were sat waiting for me. The headteacher explained that the parents were concerned that I was molesting their daughter. They didn't know when or how many times it was supposed to have happened but my name had been mentioned, apparently. I made it quite clear that I had not molested any of the pupils. The meeting then ended quickly and oddly with the father saying "OK, we hear what you say, but, if it is going on, we want it to stop." An awkward moment, indeed. A few months later, we heard that the woman had separated from the man and the issue was his molestation of his own daughter.

@FMF

They made a movie about false accusations like that and the stigma that gets put on the falsely accused. It was a true story apparently.

Did the other teachers look at you different after that?

@relentless-red said
Maybe it's the ratio of on topic posts to other posts in a thread that had potential to be a good read. Maybe the discussion of the racist posting belongs in a different thread and the posts should just be alerted in this one? It does seem sad when a half decent thread sinks under recurrent themes. It's kind of like the negative posting wins. Maybe a disputes thread for people to quickly shift their argument into?

@fmf said
@Very-Rusty
Does anyone want to share their most embarrassing and awkward moments?

I got roped into a scam a few years back. The Indonesian Youth Hostelling Association, after someone cancelled, needed a speaker for their annual conference in a hotel in Jakarta. I agreed to pose as an International Youth Hostelling Expert.

I had a PowerPoint loaded up with photos o ...[text shortened]... tional Youth Hostelling Federation [at that time].

Excruciating. But the gig paid a handsome fee.

Getting dumped, but not realising it

At school, about 16 years old, I was seeing a gorgeous Libyan girl who was certainly out of my league but we seemed to hit it off. She invited me to her house on a Saturday and we had lunch and walked in the park and talked, it was a nice day together.

On Monday I met her at break time and assured her how much I had enjoyed the day and got to know each other so much better. There was some chat and she looked at me and said “I feel we are just better friends”. I agreed wholeheartedly went off to my classes.

On the way I realised, awkwardly and embarrassingly, what she meant.

@very-rusty said
Does anyone want to share their most embarrassing and awkward moments?

-VR