Tough decisions when you are a parent

@moonbus said
Yes, it is scary. And it is a huge responsibility. A few pointers, if I may.

1. you cannot mold their personalities, and it‘s not your job to do that anyway. They are born complete humans, they are not blank slates on which you can write anything you want to. If you attempt to mold them, you may or may not get compliance, but they will in either case resist you or grow up ...[text shortened]... oom fast.

4, hurrying a child never makes things happen more quickly; it only makes everyone mad.

Hi Moonbus
Thanks for your input
I've no desire to be superfluous, but I think you mean for your child(ren) to be able to stand on their own two feet. Which I agree with, eventually. Not at 13.
Anyway, it's interesting reading your thoughts, thank you for sharing.

@yo-its-me said
Thanks Ghost, thanks for listening

What?

@yo-its-me said
Hi Moonbus
Thanks for your input
I've no desire to be superfluous, but I think you mean for your child(ren) to be able to stand on their own two feet. Which I agree with, eventually. Not at 13.
Anyway, it's interesting reading your thoughts, thank you for sharing.

Yes, making your kids independent is your goal. You want them to come to you when they grow up because they like you, not because they still need you.

@endlame said
What?

What's not what end?
Ghost understood I just wanted to rant a bit about parenthood and he wished me the best. For which I thanked him.

@yo-its-me said
What's not what end?
Ghost understood I just wanted to rant a bit about parenthood and he wished me the best. For which I thanked him.

Every kid should have to serve in the military for two years after high school.

I think that would help.

@endlame said
What?

Yep

@ghost-of-a-duke said
Left or ejected? 😲

By an overbearing mother I bet!

@divegeester said
By an overbearing mother I bet!

Raised by me Pa

I hate the bas**rd

@yo-its-me said
There are books, that's true. There's books on the importance of boundaries and why a bit of risk is healthy.
But it's still the parent who makes the decisions.

You misunderstand me. I was simply responding to your post saying "This is very true" on page 1.

I now full well that we parents make momentous decisions, worry, take responsibility, face challenges etc.

It's just not "very true" to suggest there's "no book" ~ or accumultated hand-me-down knowledge and experience ~ that can help us with any of this.

Acknowledging that there is does not diminish one bit the enormity of the task of parenting.

@yo-its-me said
There's no book that can teach me about my children because they're real, I'd have to be the author, I'm the one learning about my children more everyday.
It's just hard, that's all I'd wanted to say.
In fact it's exhausting
And scary, all that responsibility

Yes, we are all separate and unique, and our children are too. Every case of patenting is a separate and unique story and one that relies on constant learning and even heart searching.

@yo-its-me said
It's just hard, that's all I'd wanted to say.

parenting is just hard, that's all I'd wanted to say.

Doing it in a day-in-day-out partnership with someone else adds another layer of complexity too.

@fmf said
parenting is just hard, that's all I'd wanted to say.

Doing it in a day-in-day-out partnership with someone else adds another layer of complexity too.

Haha you're divorced! 😄

@endlame said
Haha you're divorced!

What makes you say that?

@fmf said
parenting is just hard, that's all I'd wanted to say.

Doing it in a day-in-day-out partnership with someone else adds another layer of complexity too.

That ⬆️

@fmf said
What makes you say that?

Stop being complicated Steven 🙄