Tough decisions when you are a parent

@divegeester said
It’s right for parents to be grateful for the influence of the local community when it has a positive influence on their offspring.

When I was a single parent I needed support from neighbours and teachers with my children, because they knew them and they knew me. It may take some experience to understand that situation.

@ghost-of-a-duke said
And help raise them according to societal norms.

No, they my support and influence, but communities don’t “raise” children.

@yo-its-me said
Are we a village, here on this forum?

Are you using “village” as a metaphor or as a fact as Torunn is?

@torunn said
When I was a single parent I needed support from neighbours and teachers with my children, because they knew them and they knew me. It may take some experience to understand that situation.

It’s not a difficult concept to understand how neighbours and other members of the community support parents.

@divegeester said
It’s not a difficult concept to understand how neighbours and other members of the community support parents.

Good, without that support societies lose their fundaments and trust, and that is basically what is happening in big places where people are more anonymous and there is no natural help and people are afraid to interfere and prefer to mind their own business.

@torunn said
Good, without that support societies lose their fundaments and trust, and that is basically what is happening in big places where people are more anonymous and there is no natural help and people are afraid to interfere and prefer to mind their own business.

I agree that local communities can influence children (both positively and negatively) and I agree that parents get support from principle sources of that community such as teachers. But it is the parents and to varying degrees, the extended family, who raise the children.

One doesn’t need to have personally raised children themselves, nor have experienced the support of a neighbour in doing so to understand these concepts.

@divegeester said
I agree that local communities can influence children (both positively and negatively) and I agree that parents get support from principle sources of that community such as teachers. But it is the parents and to varying degrees, the extended family, who raise the children.

One doesn’t need to have personally raised children themselves, nor have experienced the support of a neighbour in doing so to understand these concepts.

The responsibility of raising a child is sometimes, by necessity, shared with people other than the parent(s), when insufficient, examples given above.
Enough of this Dave, there are some tough decisions to make as parents, no doubt. 🙂

@yo-its-me said
That's interesting.
You don't have a link do you, I'd be interested in reading that

landmark minnsota twins study pub 2012 harvard university press

@yo-its-me said
Are we a village, here on this forum?

You are no. 6. Information. Why did you resign? Information. By hook or by crook, we’ll get it. Bwahahaha!!

@divegeester said
Are you using “village” as a metaphor or as a fact as Torunn is?

I guess both.
'clustered human settlement or community, larger than a hamlet but smaller than a town, with a population typically ranging from a few hundred to a few thousand.'
It depends on what your definition is.
Now, in this age when people are connected not by where they live geographically but by making of their choices in how they want to connect to others

@moonbus said
You are no. 6. Information. Why did you resign? Information. By hook or by crook, we’ll get it. Bwahahaha!!

I'm not intending to attempt to trick anyone.
I'm interested in exploring the concept
And i should have said you gave some good advice earlier- I hadn't meant to be dismissive

@yo-its-me said
Are we a village, here on this forum?

If we are its the Village of the Damned.

@the-gravedigger said
If we are its the Village of the Damned.

or in dives case dimmed

@torunn said
there are some tough decisions to make as parents, no doubt. 🙂

Yes, I’ve certainly seen my siblings going through it.

@badradger said
or in dives case dimmed

Will somebody please reference the village idiot.